Need Help 2

[errod]

I have a friend coming over tonight to watch the UFC fights with me tonight. That should keep my busy for a little while.

I have not had any contact with W today. D14 told me W is booking a trip for the two of them to Myrtle Beach over part of spring break. I know that is meant to be a slap in the face because I have been trying to get her to go there are entire time together. Now all the sudden she has an interest in going to the beach.

[errod]

I am so mad right now. D14 just texted me confirming that W is going out with the suspected OM on Tuesday. W is not even slick enough not to get caught by D14 texting him.

D14 is so upset and I can't go over and get her.

[errod]

Got to love when a women would cheat on her H with her BF. But won't cheat on her BF with her H.

[Fogg]

Its rough to know your W may be out with OM, but don't let your emotions/feelings right now cause you to react to the situation at all. You may be angry, its understandable, but doing something will not help. Saying something to her will not help. You need to try and control those feelings, especially when speaking with your D14. She may be feeding off your emotions and seeing you in pain, so she wants to be on your side and help.

Yes, your W is the one to cause this right now but you you need to be the stability for D14. Are you asking D14 about W at all? If so I would stop that immediately. She shouldn't be confirming anything about W to you. I'm not sure what to do if shes providing that information without you asking, but even implying you want it causes her to get in the middle.

[errod]

No she did it on her own. She keeps telling me she hates going to her mothers and wants to stay with me all the time. At 14 years old she is old enough that knows what is going on. D14 and W argue all the time. W won't let D14 go out but does not pay her any attention either when she has her.

[errod]

D14 and I have an extremely close relationship. I was always the one there for her growing up. She is my mini me. When W went to Dental School while D was 2-6 it was me and her for all intensive purposes. W was to busy with school to take care of either of our needs.

W brings that all the time now when she gets mad at me. How she is so jealous of the relationship D14 and I have. But D14 told me I have always been there for her not just when it is convenient. Just like an hour ago W texts me do I want to get D14 first thing in the morning so I can spend all day with her. I was like of course I do. She probably has other plans. But that is fine I told D14 just tell me what she wants to do and we will do it.

[errod]

I had to see W this morning. I had to bring D14 over to get clothes and go over some financial stuff.

She then started talking about the divorce and how we need to communicate through the process and do whats best for us and not let the attorneys control our case. She said the most important thing is that we remain friends through this for the sake of D14. She then told me again she is not happy now but keeps plugging away each day. She said she can't go back to way things were. I told her I agree with that. Things will never go back to the way they were, but that does not mean we can't work through it.

So that was my morning. When I got home she texted me that she was glad that we had that talk. But we have not talked since. I am glad I have D14 with me today so I can keep busy and not dwell on not talking. I know I am crazy but I don't believe the things that come out of her mouth. Her eyes tell me differently. Her eyes say that there is still something left. Now D14 told me I had her on her toes last week until I told her how I felt on Thursday night.

[sandi2]

Now D14 told me I had her on her toes last week until I told her how I felt on Thursday night.

Yes, well you just told her again, when you said, "but that does not mean we can't work through it".

[errod]

Yep you are 100% right. I did do it again. This is just so hard.

[errod]

Well I just got back from having to see W. D14 got herself in some trouble and I had a parent call me to tell me what happened. I then called W and said I need to tell you what D14 did in person do you want me to come there or you come here. She told me come on over. I then told her what happened. Then we talked for a little bit and laughed about the tournament and the situation D14 is in. It is the first time in a long time that we just addressed a situation laughed and then left. She sent me home with a whole batch of cookies. Not to mention earlier she made me a lemon cake and had a bag of fruit for me.

This is the same person who last week cooked for D14 and herself and wouldn't feed me. Now of course this morning she said it was because she was mad because after I came back from running with the dog that day I took off my shirt and walked around the house. I said that was because you liked it. She blushed and said a physical attraction was never our issue.