Need Help 2

[errod]

I woke up this morning and wanted to talk to W so bad. My D14 who really is the one keeping me inline told me not to. D14 then told me to send a simple little 1 sentence text just saying "Have a good day at work" with a little emoji at the end. W then wrote right back saying Thank You and asked about my day. I just left it at that.

I will see W later because I have to bring D14 to her tonight because it is her night. Plus I have to get some documents off the computer for my attorney tomorrow.

I should be able to keep busy today so it should not be a bad day.

[errod]

So I just got a call that someone was trying to access my bank account online. I can't decide if I should call W and see if it was her. The accounts are joint and she has every right to access them, but never wanted anything to do with financials when we were married. For one thing I am trying not to contact her. Secondly if it was her she will get further away because she was caught.

[errod]

W called about D14 being sick and needing to be picked up from school. I told her about the bank calling she said it was her. She said she wants to see what I have been doing with the money. I took that comment as questioning my integrity, so I did get defensive. After all she is the one that just opened up a new credit card so I can't see where she is spending money.

I really don't know what is happening to her. I still love her but do I only love the old her? Is the old her still there or is the out of controlled possessed narcissist all that is left.

[HeavyD]

Sandi

Sorry to hijack here - but I wanted to tell you how very much I appreciate what you do for the lost souls here on the DB boards. I always look for your posts as they seem so real and relevant.

I have printed out your WW post and carry it with me and refer to it often. It is like a play book to my WAW. In the end, I don't know if if will matter, but I wanted to sincerely thank you anyway.

[errod]

Have to go to W's in a minute to drop D14 off and get some papers. I am not looking forward to it. I love and miss her so much. It kills me to see her and not be able to have her.

[errod]

I go to W's to print out the documents I need. As I am sitting there she says that she is pulling all the money from our current Bank. She for some reason thinks that there is something going on with me and one of the Loan Officers. She said the women flirts with me to much. I don't get that vibe at all. So of course that said the tone for the evening. Then it turned into we can't let these attorneys destroy our friendship. Next it was I have not loved you since July and I can't be married to someone I don't love. W said she new it was time to move on when she can picture me with someone else and not get mad.

She really does confuse me.

[Wet]

Hi errod, it must have hurt to hear your W say that she can't be married to someone she doesn't love. Are you doing ok?

W taking the money out of the bank and the story she gave you seems odd. Try and get a print out from the bank of the charges billed to the account before it was closed. Her story doesn't seem to add up.

[errod]

She hasn't taken the money out of the account she is just threatening to. We have 4 accounts and 4 loans there. I have all the bank records and pay all the bills. She just hands the bills to me. She has just been saying since Spring that there is something with me and this lady. I can tell you there is not attraction on my part I only have eyes for one person.

I am just sitting here alone stunned. I just want this nightmare to end.

[errod]

W just texted me and we talked for like an hour. She apologized for how she acted earlier and then we talked about the lawyers. She wants me to get a proposal from my attorney and then us meet and settle on our own and not let the lawyers tear are family apart. Very confusing talking about family while going through a divorce. We then talked some about D14.

I asked her to go to the Dr.s and get checked out. She told me no that even if they do find something wrong with her hormones that is not the root of our problems. I disagree but I did not continue the discussion.

[Sotto]

Errod, it isn't lawyers tearing your family apart....

IMHO, I would never go through something like this without legal advice. My H suggested we do this without lawyers and I said no.