I'm not going to wade in on the topic of the prevalence of men and women in abusive relationships, but Vanilla brought it up in regards to the quote below that Sherman shared from some un-named source.
I realize that it may have been taken out of context but I gotta say, I'm in full agreement with Vanilla that it made me queasy. And I thought it was....gross.
Edit - post removed as per request
Last edited by Cadet; 04/02/1511:22 PM. Reason: message
Remember what I said... "you must be willing to sacrifice a THOUSAND women before losing a single shred of your dignity".
The context relative to this quote is that a husband should not allow himself to be demeaned, there should be mutual respect, or his marriage will fail.
Stirred the pot with the quote.
If it's causing an issue, MODs, please modify.
Last edited by Sherman333; 04/02/1506:13 PM.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.
I'm not going to wade in on the topic of the prevalence of men and women in abusive relationships, but Vanilla brought it up in regards to the quote below that Sherman shared from some un-named source.
I realize that it may have been taken out of context but I gotta say, I'm in full agreement with Vanilla that it made me queasy. And I thought it was....gross.
I agree, taken as it's written, it made me cringe too.
Remember what I said... "you must be willing to sacrifice a THOUSAND women before losing a single shred of your dignity".
The context relative to this quote is that a husband should not allow himself to be demeaned, there should be mutual respect, or his marriage will fail.
Stirred the pot with the quote.
If it's causing an issue, MODs, please modify.
I appreciate that Sherman - I guess, from the way that it is written it didn't seem like it would lead to an atmosphere of mutual respect - hence part of my issue with it. I certainly agree that any H or W shouldn't let their spouses walk over them or be disrespectful- which it sounds like we all agree on.
That's the problem with a section vs. the whole thing.
The sections in the book above the portion I quoted talk about forgiveness, respect, etc. But the entire book is focused on generating attraction (or chemistry if you prefer) in a committed relationship.
The quote is probably too long and the original intent of posting it seems to have been lost based on everyone's reactions.
I notified the mods to look at it and adjust it as needed.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.
Look Sherman, the mods do not need to adjust anything. This is a debatable point and posters are free to express their opinions on this subject as long it's respectful and does not veer into offensive territory. We are responding to what is being posted here and are not mindreaders.
While this is an important topic to discuss, it feels that we are going off in a different direction away from Sandi's thread for LBHs.
Let's all get back to the regularly scheduled program, shall we?
I wrote a long post on stats, skewing etc but the best report is the CDC report in the US from 2011. Of course the Freedom report in the UK is 2013 and excludes guns. Very tedious so I deleted it. as long as one person is subject to this it is one too many.
I personally think this sort of debate is very healthy and Scherman I think your post should stand as it is. It is very important indeed to understand when an M is violent and standing has less value in the short term. Thank you for the opportunity to review the issue.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 04/02/1506:57 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
