She seems obsessed with Jason Statham and that kind of person.
That's every woman on the western hemisphere mate.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
It is difficult to explain or describe in words, much less expect a LBH to understand it. I think she sees you as acting overly concerned about your son to make her feel badly/guilty. In that type of mindset of some WW's, they believe the H is playing the role of the good parent, while trying to make her appear to be the bad parent. I can almost see her role her eyes, telling herself, "Can he get more dramatic!"
So she reacts by turning into a shrew. I'm not saying she will, but don't be surprised if she appears to take her irritation out on him. He probably senses it, and she knows it. Instead of her softening, her rebellion takes over and makes her colder. Rebellion can be a terrible thing when it drives a person's behavior in all areas of their life.
WW's will push button's you didn't even know you had!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I know you aren't, I'm just trying to help you see from her point of craziness. I'm getting ready for work right now, but I will get back to you in a couple of hours, hopefully.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I always learn something from your posts. I can't decide whether it is a good thing or a bad thing that my W is the typical WW you so often describe. Probably I should consider it neither.
My wife has been relatively calm lately. She is still rewriting history though. She is settling into A it seems. She introduced him to her father this weekend. He is in my house most nights in my off weeks. (50/50 custody. Kids live in family home and we move in and out ).
I have read (at least remembered) many discussions about erratic, unreasonable behaviour, but if this is a year(s) deal then surely it must normalise at some point?
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
I have read (at least remembered) many discussions about erratic, unreasonable behaviour, but if this is a year(s) deal then surely it must normalise at some point?
How long can you hold your breath?
I think it's more like an addiction. Some people quit. Other people don't. DBing is like the "AA" for affair addicts. We can't control them or make them quit. We simply learn to disengage from co-dependent behavior, quit enabling, stand tall, and walk our own path. Wherever it leads us.
We're not the only ones suffering. Remember that many, many marriages are inflicted by these addictions, and while their spouse hasn't walked the quality of their lives is no better. Alcoholism, abuse, gambling, etc.
Be strong Py, and build others up around you. That's what we can do, eh?
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
Hi Huddy. Hope you don't mind me joining in. Can I just say that you seem to be doing the best you can re your kids and at the moment that the most Important thing to get right It's really tough on you but the kids must come first
Your W seems abit like a nightmare at the moment but you need to rise above it for yours and the kids sake
