WAW Filed for D the Next Day Part 9 (Bob)

[Bob723]

Well, my L sent me an e-mail. I was right, my W complied and found her own health insurance.

Here's a small part (reworded, of course) of the e-mail from my L to me:
W's L informed me today in court that your spouse enrolled into a health insurance plan. He did not know when it becomes effective but would ask his client and let me know.

In addition, my L added that our next court date is another pre-trial next month, and she hopes we can reach a settlement agreement after that. Problem is, I'm in mandatory work training 3 days next month--one of them being the day of the pre-trial. So, I already sent her a reply explaining and asking her to re-schedule.

I'm still not 100% physically, and my emotions are all over the place. I need to take my own advice--take things 1 day at a time, keep a PMA and read some of my favorite Bible verses.

I would not wish D on anyone.

Bob

[Cadet]

I would not wish D on anyone.

Yea it vacuum cleans,

the good news is that eventually it is over.

Hang in there Bob.

[Wonka]

Bob,

Oh no! Does your L know that you don't want a D? Possible to ask L to drag it out or change it to Controlled Separation?

[Bob723]

Thank you Cadet!

Bob

[Bob723]

Oh no! Does your L know that you don't want a D? Possible to ask L to drag it out or change it to Controlled Separation?

Hi Wonka,

I was about to post a draft text I was thinking of sending to my W.

To answer your question, yes, my L does know. I heard back from her moments ago and it sounds like the "pre-trial" will be pushed back to August. Controlled Separation? I'm not sure I've ever heard that term in the USA...at least not the state I live in.

Thank you for bringing it up. I'll ask my L about it.

*hugs*

Bob

[Bob723]

A friendly call out to Wonka, Sandi, MrBond, Cadet and All:

Last night I was praying and meditating. Afterward, I felt like I should send W a message from my heart. I haven’t done this in a long time. The message below came to me quickly. Any thoughts? Good idea? Terrible idea? Okay, but with some edits? Does this seem pursuing to you?

Every word of it is true, she “seems” happy, but of course I’m not a mind-reader. Also, I do realize I can make it on my own. Between us, sure I am saddened by this, but I have learned happiness comes from within. I’m not bringing up anything about R. I feel like this is one point I haven’t touched on with W and want to validate her feelings. I do not expect her to change her mind.

Here ‘s my idea:
“It's taken me all this time to realize that as the years went on, I paid less attention to your desires and did not show you with my actions how much I appreciated you. The irony is I was always proud of you, but as I've had time to reflect on our past, I'm guessing most of the time it didn't seem like I was proud of you. I wish I knew then what I know now...that I should've praised you more often. Some good has come out of all of this--you are happy and I realize I can make it on my own. Happiness truly does come from within.”

Any help would be greatly appreciated, as always!

Your DB friend,

Bob

[Wonka]

Bob,

Sweet man...please put aside that note. You are in a panic mode. It will not serve anyone at all.

Don't let this latest development get under your skin. I know, I know...easier said than done.

[Bob723]

Wonka,

Sweet woman, thank you for rescuing myself from me again! Who's counting, but this must be at least 50 times! LOL

I feel like a broken record, but I also feel this from deep within my soul....what would we all do without you?

I can't thank you enough for taking your precious time for me and others here. I am going to dedicate a VERY special prayer for you tonight, my dear, dear friend.

Bob

[Sotto]

I agree with Wonka, Bob. I think when you feel an urge to send a text like that, it is just your own wish to try and connect with your W in some way - or your hope that maybe it would influence your sitch. Best to just let it go.

My text interactions with H are mostly infrequent now, and mostly business. I throw in an occasional well-wishing message if something is happening. In the past 4/5 months I've wished him a HBD and a Good luck for the new job. But minimal, you know?

Take care, and thanks for your kind post on my sitch. I've had a couple of rides on the rollercoaster this week, but I'm taking a break for an ice-cream sundae now!! xx

[Bob723]

I agree with Wonka, Bob. I think when you feel an urge to send a text like that, it is just your own wish to try and connect with your W in some way - or your hope that maybe it would influence your sitch. Best to just let it go.

Hey Toots,

You're welcome. You have helped me so many times, I think of you often and finally had time to check on your sitch. It's been a few days.

You know, Toots, I think you "hit the nail on the head" with your quote above. Thank you for giving it to me straight.

For the most part, my W and I keep to business matters, too. But in this case, I guess I started getting a bit emotional, and just wanted to connect, just like you wrote.

The rollercoaster you have been on has certainly not been a fun ride. An ice-cream sundae sounds much more enjoyable and yummy! Enjoy!

Do you have any favorite toppings? xx

Bob