You don't have to be a therapist to try to help people save their marriages. Everyone- even you- can be a go-to person when other people's marriages hit bumps in the road. You can advise people to focus on what they can do to make things better, not blame their spouses. Preach working harder, not getting out. When it comes to saving marriages, it takes a village.
If your spouse wants out, don't listen to or believe every word he or she says. Stay the Divorce Busting course. It's important not to over-react. Any experiences with this?
Divorce Busting August 7 at 12:34pm · Want to know the two questions you need to ask before you tie the knot? They're not what you think. Ask, "When things get rough, would you be willing to get help to learn what we need to do to solve our problems?" "What, if anything, would be the one thing that would make you think we need to divorce?" Longevity in marriage doesn't come from similar backgrounds, values and interests; it comes from commitment to work through the hard times. Look for that quality in your mate and you will have love insurance. Michele Weiner-Davis (via Divorce Busting)
When I work with couples, the most important thing I do, bar none, is to offer hope when they feel hopeless. Believing that change in possible is the first step in making change happen.
So, to those of you who are fighting for your marriages, know that it's often possible for things to turn around- even in the 11th hour. Remain hopeful.
David Ben Gurion once said, "Anyone who doesn't believe in miracles isn't a realist." Thought for the day.
As a child of divorce myself, I can attest to the fact that while you move on with your life, there is a hole in your heart that never completely heals. Families are affected forever. I urge you to factor this in if you have kids and are considering divorce.
Divorce Busting August 12 at 11:28am · Fighting for your marriage is a courageous thing to do, regardless of the results! It takes strength, determination and stick-to-it-iveness. Here's to all the courageous people who are fighting to keep their marriages and families together!
"Follow your bliss"- is decidedly bad advice for marriage. While marriage can feel blissful from time to time, like anything else in life, it can also be very difficult. And when it is, you have to do things you might not feel like doing. Swallowing your pride, realizing you need to change, putting your spouse's and children's needs before your own, and..... What you FEEL like doing isn't always as important as what you need to do to be a good spouse, parent, friend, son/daughter.... Anything worth having is a thing worth working on.
Divorce Busting Yesterday at 2:50pm So many people who divorce don't fully consider ALL the fallout of their decisions. Although it's impossible to have a crystal ball, careful thought about how life will play out after divorce should be mandatory. Too many people just get caught up in the moment and fail to recognize all the new and unintended problems that will occur as a result of divorce.
