Having our S around can be difficult as it clouds our judgement. You are not constantly reminded of things if she was in flesh in front of you.
Time apart can only bring the best out of individual as they start to realise that part of the problem comes from within, and they are the only one that can change that.
For some it happens but it's a long process. For other they decide to remain the victim and blame others instead of looking deep inside.
On the drinking side, I can fully relate with you and enjoy your outdoors activities :-)
GAL update: Running strong for two miles, added weight to workout this week, started yoga classes Saturday morning. Feeling a little stronger physically if not mentally. Amazing workout in yoga class. My back was popping like I was with the chiropractor. Had a really ugly encounter with STBEW. She reminded me of all the reasons that she is divorcing me. Not sure of her intent as I am well aware of her greivences.
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
Bro, this is the worst thing ever. I don't have cancer, but I am getting in-home infusion therapy 5 hours a day 5 days in a row every 4 weeks for a disease I have. It is so hard to see my strength and endurance disappear while trying to project a positive attitude and confidence.
Way to go getting more fit. i have really found CrossFit to be a god send.
M: 36 yo W: 36 yo S: 7 D: 4 M: 13 yrs BD: 6/14 (??) PE Confirmed 7/15 (4 months) The road to recovery starts now
Stay strong guys. Training hard is going to really help your PMA's. The stronger you feel in your body the stronger you'll be to handle the crap that's going on in your situations.
One day at a time.
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
HurtHus I am sorry to hear of your challenges. This is tough but you have to put your health ahead of even DB. It is too much to ask of a human to fight two wars at the same time. If your S doesn't have compassion for you during your illness then there isn't much you can do. Being brave and being a fighter has a positive impact on normal healthy individuals but these WW are not normal or mentally stable. They just can't see beyond their own feelings. Be open to your family and friends who reach out to you and accept all help offered. I will pray for you!
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
Thanks Shotty. I'll be praying for you as well. Since I read your post about getting back into hunting and fishing I think I want to get back into going to the range more regularly again. It's been entirely too long.
M: 36 yo W: 36 yo S: 7 D: 4 M: 13 yrs BD: 6/14 (??) PE Confirmed 7/15 (4 months) The road to recovery starts now
Hey HurtHus. There is nothing better than getting together with the guys (or girls) at the range and blasting some clays or some bulls eyes! Anything that helps me forget about my troubles for a little while is worth doing. Unless it makes me sick in the morning! Got the ball rolling on the big D today so hopefully I can get this over with soon and begin to heal.
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
So sorry to hear this buddy. I think it is an indication that she knows better and knows she shouldn't be doing this, but is so conflicted that she can't stop. She is like an addict refusing to admit there is really a problem.
I really hope you can find some peace through all of this.
M: 36 yo W: 36 yo S: 7 D: 4 M: 13 yrs BD: 6/14 (??) PE Confirmed 7/15 (4 months) The road to recovery starts now
Sorry to hear about OM. From what I have been reading, with the OM our S is in a different world. I know it's hard but try not to think about her or him, and do what you enjoy the most.
