Has the C told her that she doesn't get to "connect" with OM for closure?
Just my guess, but I think your W wants her ego soothed by hearing OM tell her how much he still wants her and how he had no choice but to stay with his family. At any rate, I wish the C would set her straight about it.
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Has the C told her that she doesn't get to "connect" with OM for closure?
Just my guess, but I think your W wants her ego soothed by hearing OM tell her how much he still wants her and how he had no choice but to stay with his family. At any rate, I wish the C would set her straight about it.
W admitted last night that OM kissed her the last time he was in town (last week). Claims it was a surprise kiss over the tall counter that was between them. That counter is tall enough that they would have had to been in pretty close proximity for him to even get close enough. Surprise my a$$
She also started back on birth control pills just this week. I had a vasectomy 10 years ago. I just found out about that this morning and haven't gotten a chance to confront her about that.
I don't know what's worse...that she's lying to me (or at least trickle-truthing), or that she thinks I'm an idiot.
Last edited by NH115; 08/11/1508:04 PM.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
Unless she's taking the BC for health reasons (which she should've disclosed to you.....and shouldn't have come as a shock), I really think you have nothing to talk about more than, "this isn't working for me, I'm staying in a hotel until I can secure more permanent lodging."
And then LEAVE.
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15
Unless she's taking the BC for health reasons (which she should've disclosed to you.....and shouldn't have come as a shock), I really think you have nothing to talk about more than, "this isn't working for me, I'm staying in a hotel until I can secure more permanent lodging."
And then LEAVE.
And it's entirely possible that she's on them for legitimate reasons, but she could have easily volunteered that information. When we picked up the prescription during a shopping trip, I didn't know what it was and casually asked her, since I knew she had been to the doctor. She said it was to prevent an "infection", since she had just had a small procedure done. It was later I realized what kind of pills they were.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
