Re: 2nd time around part 4

[123Gwen]

Of course be honest but restraint and brevity are your friends.

If he is not having to deal with you then that is of benefit to you right now.

Does him getting this job help benefit you? If you are married you can get insurance - is that a benefit for you?

The business of life and marriage have a different set of rules than matters of the heart. As time has gone on I realized I could not fix or manipulate things to change emotions. MLC is real and irrational and all about emotion. My only measure of control has been to keep my cool and conduct the business side of things with razor sharp focus. Each decision that has benefited me on the business side of life has ultimately helped me cope better emotionally. Do I wish it were different? Of course but this is my new normal.

The bonus of being focused on the practical is that it promotes detachment and strengthens you.