I never read your thread before because I hadn't figured out who Ginger was. LOL. I guess I've been AWOL. I was always after an apology from Ex (never from maggot) because I still can't believe he could do that to me. And I also wonder how a woman could do that to another woman. I mean - "who does that?" but I've also come to the conclusion that I will never get an apology or the answer. and I'm finally ok with that. I hope you can get past that too. I applaud you for accepting her for who she is, your ex for who he is and your M for what it was. And I'm also REALLY glad you got to be the Disney Mom!
I will always remember how the 2 of you came into our boat from the other side. Meant to be!
Barb, I wasn't in the know either. I just don't stop in often enough anymore. So glad you guys got to meet!
I am really hoping I get to meet you both next. I will give that up to the Universe and see where it gets me.
I always wanted my ex to say our marriage meant something. You know what though, it meant something to me. I was crazy about him. I can wish for all kinds of apologies or realizations that I don't think will ever come. He gave me my four kids and that was all he was meant to do.
Now we are at the point the girls don't want the every other weekend, they want to do things with their friends. Sadly they will most likely have to get a job before that happens. What is a little more chaos after all?
Hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
One thing my ex gave me was this "Nobody could have tried harder to save this marriage than you did. I want you to know that I recognize that" That meant something to me and I guess it's the best anyone could have hoped for
My ex left me for a horse. Should I wait for the stallions apology and could I use google translator? G i so wanna take Kari to Disney. .she would love it. And glad u kids had fun. Luv u both
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Funny enough, I lost my desire for an apology from my ex a long time ago. The best I got sometime in the beginning was a very insincere "sorry it had to be this way". He is incapapble of feeling remorse or seeing his wrongdoing and I just know what kind of person he is. He isn't sorry, and that's fine with me, finally. I think something in me was hoping to find out H was a decent human being and she felt what she did was wrong, and would apologize. It would humanize her for me and maybe we could work together a little better. I keep reading these things nd seeing these stories of the ex spouse and the new partner doing these nice things for eachother and becoming close, I thought maybe I should be feeling that way. Then again, they weren't the affair partner. I often wish she came after out divorce, but reality is she didn't. She did what she did and that I have to deal with.
Rick, you guys must make it there one day! I know she would love it and so would you! My friends and I were considering a trip next year for the food and wine festival for just us adults! My best friend's parents love out there and we would just stay with them.
Count me in! Let's do lunch! G - love you like a daughter! I will never forget our wonderful time in Disney. And let's not forget that I own 3 cottages on the lake. Not too far for Wii - there would be room for all of us there. Just a thought for summer.
I'm meeting my BF's 6 year old daughter this weekend. I am pretty good with kids and I love them, but I am so nervous! Never before did I fell pressure meeting a kid! We have a nice day planned and I am sure all will go well. He texted D8 for a while I was kickboxing, lol. I am excited for him to meet her, and for the girls to meet. This stuff is all new to me though. but yes, very exciting. Crossing my fingers it all goes well!
I must have really gotten out of the loop. When did you get a BF??!!! I am happy for you but this must have been lost out in the universe somewhere. Spill the beans girlie!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I must have really gotten out of the loop. When did you get a BF??!!! I am happy for you but this must have been lost out in the universe somewhere. Spill the beans girlie!
kat
Hey Kat! It's been a few months now. I met a great guy at the party of a mutual friend. he happens to be that mutual friend's best friend. And there is another interesting detail to that;)
I don't advertise it on FB or anything. I think the FB world wouldn't even know how to react. Plus I am also superstitious. I feel like I say something and it will go away. Stupid, I know.
he's a wonderful, open, sensitive, emotionally available guy (new for me) and we are really enjoying eachother. The only problem is we have distance. Drivable, doable distance, but nonetheless, distance. but we are figuring it out.
This is a whole new pathway to navigate, but a very exciting one!
