WXW has still left quite a bit of stuff at the house. I've asked her about some of it but I've found more. She has told me what she was going to pick up and what she doesn't want ( such as a leather couch, chair and ottoman from her first marriage that I should have demanded we get rid of as soon as we got married but I let her bully me and I put up with it. Some what because I didn't want to spend money on new ones)
Questions.... 1. She has asked me to box up her books and put them in the garage. I don't think I should. Not my responsibility. thoughts?
2. I have found more stuff...clothes, jackets, shoes, purses, parts for the boys bunkbeds and supplements I wouldn't use. Do I tell her about these things and ask her to pick them up or do I not bother reaching out to her and just hide them in a closet?
3. In a cabinet she took (it was hers) we use to keep wedding effects such as her boutique, bride and groom from the cake and candles. She left these on my desk in the office. I would guess to hurt me. I haven't said anything. I haven't planned to say anything. I think I should just box them up with the rest of the wedding photos, towels with our initials, and anything else that has to do with "us" and put it in the closet. thoughts?
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
all of her stuff that you dont want i would box up. I would also box up the stuff she asked for. I would put it all together labeled with her name. When she wants it, let her come get it.
the other stuff, yes box up and put away.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Hi all, I've taken a little break from being on here. I found I was obsessing and spending too much time here and thinking about her. The last week has been nice. I've ripped out a bunch of old carpet, bought new carpet and it will be installed this week. Also, my parents just arrived last night and will be staying for a couple weeks with me. Should be a big help around the house. I have a question WXW has taken a couple shots at me over the last week but nothing huge. Mostly just throwing in "your girlfriend" statements. I've ignored all of them. We had a D4 exchange last night and it was very quick. We didn't speak a word to each other. Today she sent me a text that says "Yesterday it seemed like you may be upset with me. Did I do something to upset you?" I'm not sure if I should even respond. She didn't do anything yesterday to upset me but she has been doing things for years that she has never apologized for and the last 8 months she upped the ante by sleeping around, lying, throwing these A's in my face, treating me like garbage and D'ing me.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
Hi gs9. Glad to hear things have generally went well for you. I don't have advice on how to respond but I'm very curious to see how others would respond.
Hope things continue on the upswing for you.
Me:44 W:38 T:10.5 M:7.5 D:3 BD: 7/2015 W moves out of MBR: 9/2015 WW files for D: 2/8/2016
Honestly, I think she is feeling the consequneces of her actions and is unsure. It doesn't mean she wants to jump back in a R with you, but she might be questioning herself.
She's temp checking, clearly. Asking about your GF, are you mad etc? She can't get a read on you.
Just got another text about 3 hours later that says "I'm working in _______(the city I work in about an hour from home) and found a kind of hole in the wall called _______. Pretty good! Near the college, you should try it if you haven't already."
She's definitely temp checking.
not sure if or how to respond?
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
Thanks Thornton. I guess I'm looking for an opening to put our family back together but I'm also reminded that she hasn't showed an ounce of remorse for the A's, lies, violence, D....etc.....not an ounce.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
I see her reaching out but want to make sure not to pursue her or even think about the possibility of taking her back.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
I think you'll know without a doubt when you have an opening. Let her come to you. She wanted out, remember?
If she wants back in, you can't let her off the hook to easily. I think I let my WAW back too easily instead of making her sweat a little bit. And now I'm back here.
