Here goes nothin'....

[Melo]

CWOL: Oh man!! I was thinking that I would be able to give the kids a stable place to live and then I wouldn't feel so terrible for never having given them a house before (we weren't homeless, but the apt was terrible)
Mr. Bond: Not yet, I have just been reading the posts here and absorbing as much of this as I can.

[MrBond]

"Not yet, I have just been reading the posts here and absorbing as much of this as I can."

Not good enough. That's why your thinking is so scattered. You can't just go on the Cliff Notes version of this stuff. When do you plan to get them?

[Melo]

So, as many others have said before I can't believe how much things have changed for me I used to have a very loving and caring wife who was always there for me was there for the kids and always always had my back and now she has done such a big 180 that I almost can't fathom how things have gotten to this point I know that I made some mistakes I know that she made some mistakes but I truly believe that if two people really want to make it work they can and I know that I am more than willing to make it work I just think that living in the same house makes it so much better on one level because you can see each other and have more opportunities to interact and do 180 but at the same time it's difficult because that person doesn't stop doing what they're doing in front of you and pushing you away and challenging you to continue being that old person that they hate I guess so that they can feel good about leaving you I just don't know sometimes.

[CWOL]

Melo, we all did. I have a stack of cards my WW gave me over the years. Just last year for Father's Day, she wrote what a great dad and husband I was for her and our son. Now she claims she's been out of love for the past two years. Huh? Yet she contacted OM 9 years ago at least.

I think the dynamics around a WW are very different from WAW. You need to figure out which one is your wife.

[Melo]

Wow I'm sorry to hear that brother I think it's all about context and so my wife says that said recently that everything started going bad about 4 years ago when she was pregnant with our youngest son and she continue to be in the marriage and try to work at it and really it wasn't until this January I'm sorry January 15th that she decided to walk away and start tanning again and start going to the gym to make herself feel better she didn't want to separate from me until she thought that I was having an affair and then she moved to her moms house for a day she was anxious to the point where she needed medication she stalks me at my job she would wait in the parking lot she would look at my phone and she was very very angry at one point slapping me. I don't think an OM precipitated this. I think that the thought of an A on my part drove her to this point and when she looked back to try and see if it was worth saving the marriage, she decided that it wasn't because we had been so far apart for so long that she fell out of love.

[Melo]

I meant January 2015 not 15th, I was using the talk to text, sorry!

[MrBond]

"but at the same time it's difficult because that person doesn't stop doing what they're doing in front of you and pushing you away and challenging you to continue being that old person that they hate I guess so that they can feel good about leaving you I just don't know sometimes."

Mindreading on your part. It's all covered in the book. Do you plan to read them?

[Melo]

Yeah, I suppose I should. I think I'm smarter than I am sometimes. I tend to do things halfway...another 180...

[Melo]

So my wife just left to go to the gym. She took a shower before leaving, she was tanning and said she "sweated a lot" Brushed her teeth too I'm sure. I don't want to check because it will drive me crazy. She is only able to go because I am here. I live in the same house and so I watch the kids. I am good for that but not for much else. I ordered the book by the way, should get it on Thursday.

[CWOL]

So my wife just left to go to the gym. She took a shower before leaving, she was tanning and said she "sweated a lot" Brushed her teeth too I'm sure. I don't want to check because it will drive me crazy. She is only able to go because I am here. I live in the same house and so I watch the kids. I am good for that but not for much else. I ordered the book by the way, should get it on Thursday.

And as you said, there's no OM?