Way too late? Pt4

[1313]

Painter, good point about them looking at her changing her expenses. That's just a crazy expenditure she just made - it blows my mind. In fact, her real estate coach who makes tons more than she does - wanted one of these but wouldn't buy it.

It's so good to have the dog, but it is sad that she's just not her perky self. She didn't seem so happy to see me when I went to get her, but she's right next to me now. I think you're right - after a week of being gone she'd turn inside out to see me, but old age and sadness (yes, I was the person she was with all day) were all in the mix. 3 months is a long time in dog days.

Oh well, guess I should go get dinner started. I'll check in later. Thanks!

[TimR]

1313 sorry, I was away for the weekend and just got caught up on your thread. Great news about you getting to see your doggy. I hope you are having an outstanding time!! Sorry to hear that the WW's front seems like a way to just buy time. I have no idea what the lack of changes in the house means or does not mean. I can tell you my WW has taken every and any step she could to delete me form her life. So the fact that the pics are still up may give some semblance of hope. But honestly I do not have a clue. Maybe look around the threads and see what others have to say. To give some background on mine, WW left any pic with me in it here. Her FB states we are divorced although I just filed last week. The only thing she did want from me was the rings, but that I know was just cause of the value.

Well buddy good luck and keep taking the high road but make sure you are taking it for your own integrity, not for her respect.

[CWOL]

Don't read too much into these things. Remember, only believe half the things she does, if you are DBing!

[1313]

Hi Tim, I know you were off having a great weekend - so no worries.

CWOL, I'm not taking anything for face value. What I do know is there was a slight "softening", what the real reason is I don't know. It could be that the guy who normally sits the dog is in the hospital - other people were available.

I'm grateful for having the dog for what little time I do have her. But I'm thanking God for that, not the WW.

I do consider her actions sort of a 50/50 at best. However, the choice is simple. She said she would "consider" the counseling. Her tone seems to have softened considerably. All monetary? Highly likely, yes. I will have a much better idea after court on Wednesday when she sees the reality of what she's done.

[CWOL]

I do consider her actions sort of a 50/50 at best. However, the choice is simple. She said she would "consider" the counseling. Her tone seems to have softened considerably. All monetary? Highly likely, yes. I will have a much better idea after court on Wednesday when she sees the reality of what she's done.

1313,
Don't get your hopes up, don't try to mind-read. That is how we LBH's get hurt.
It's like her original "stop the divorce" drama. Just a smokescreen to confuse you. If she were serious about Reconciliation, she would tell you directly and eagerly.
My WW didn't send up these false signals but neither did she actively oppose R. Later I found out she was sharpening a knife to put in my back called "D."

[1313]

CWOL,
yeah I already got the vitriol and resentment this very moment. After returning from the Vet, I sent her the results, what the vet told me (weight gain - bad for a dog with a bad heart, tartar buildup on teeth - wife stopped brushing) along with info on her eye-ulcer, the meds, and a photo.

The WW fired back that I was doing all this to make her feel bad, and that she was hoping we could be civil, without L's, etc. etc., so she already let her mask slip. No surprises. She's as mean as ever.

So, I simply answered back that I was simply passing on the info after having the vet tell me these things, I'm concerned for the dog and not her feelings. If she cannot learn and adapt, then I'm sorry.

Honestly, the dog would not be in this bad a shape if I was still taking care of her. Pathetic WW's, always concerned for themselves, aren't they?

So, guns blazing at court on Wednesday.

[1313]

Oh, and I probably blew it by not "validating" her feelings, rather saying I didn't care about how she felt and was concerned with the dog.

Oh well, better luck next time? Nah.

[1313]

Weeeeeeird.

I was sitting here working, and I got a facebook notification. I don't really do facebook - at all. It seemed a bit odd and I clicked as it was coming in.

It said "do you know...", and holy smokes. It was an old college GF from 1978?! Man, did I fall head over heels for her. I guess it's God's way of saying there's life out there. Maybe I'll say something to her in a month or three.

[CWOL]

Sorry to hear the bad news about your dog and wife. But it's probably better for you to learn the truth now than to anticipate a miracle happening with your WW. I think what you need to recognize is that WW's will not change overnight. Don't believe anything she says, and only 1/2 of what she does.

[1313]

CWOL - Oh yeah, no surprises really.
But I did "validate" her feelings, asked her to please re-read the message I sent, and I knew she was doing her best. I said please don't resent me to the point you can't see what I'm saying.

She sent "thank you" and is now probably scratching her head.