A few things you should know as the LBS

[Esame]

Thank you for this J3B, it's brilliant. I'm going to read it as often as I can.

Cadet thank you for the lighthouse story

[HTM]

A very inspiring post Jack_Three_Beans, and one I believe I'll be coming back to again & again.

All of the things you mention I have wrestled with over the last 7-8mnths and I'm sure I'll continue to do so for some time.

The point you make about how this may affect my children's future relationships & breaking a cycle, also weigh on me. I believe my W is following a path laid down by her father who had at least two As while she still lived at home as a young teen. There is the leading by example too, showing my two Ss how to deal with life's more difficult times; hope I'm up to the task.

I struggle with comparing myself to OM a lot, though I am working to break this unhealthy thinking. Although I don't know this person, I take some solace in that he chose to involve himself with a married woman, taking advantage of my W at a vulnerable time, which IMO exhibits a lack of integrity and true regard for others. Even my IC has pointed out that the OP is not better just different, that's all.

I know I have a lot more work to do on me but posts such as this give me strength, and true hope rather than any offered by my W at present.

[sgctxok]

Ditto to all these things. It's not just for MLC, everything you said is just general good advice for this board.

Thanks for this, JTB! You might not post often, but when you do, it's quote-worthy!

[Bee29]

Thank you Jack! I'd love to print this out & stick it to my fridge so I could read it every time I feel down. Unfortunately it's not an option since my h comes to the house...

[Brubeck]

Thank you once again for your wisdom, J3B. I need to hear every word of this. I save DB posts like this onto my Google drive and read them on tough days. Bless you.

[bttrfly]

thanks Jack. Just re-read this. Much needed, and much appreciated. xo

[Legolas]

That was a helpful post. Similar situation to mine. Thank you!

[Legolas]

Thanks, Jack. Very very helpful! Love the CS Lewis quote too.

[Legolas]

Hi everyone - thanks for those who replied. How do I get my S to see the positive changes I am making while still "going dark"? We are 600 miles apart and don't even talk much.

[job]

Legolas,

Welcome to the land of MLC! I see you are a newbie and are posting over on Newcomers. Why not start a thread here in MLC? That way people will begin posting to you and then you'll have a thread to refer back to as you travel your Life's path?