Jack Three Beans Words of Wisdom

[AndrewP]

I've been reluctant to post anything here. Jack was and is a beacon in the darkness to me. Even now I can't think of him without tearing up which would have p!ssed him off to no end I'm sure. Everyone else has posted moving stories and profound statements that he has made of which there were no shortage of on my own thread.

I only knew him from his writing and only for a short time. I think that this remembrance that I have of him would make him smile.

Homework:

Learn to cook ONE meal REALLY well.

Believe me you'll shock the [censored] out of her one day, or impress someone else. You already have most of this in your house. Or should.

1/4 cup all-purpose flour for coating
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon ground black pepper
1/2 teaspoon dried oregano
4 skinless, boneless chicken breast halves - pounded 1/4 inch thick VERY IMPORTANT
4 tablespoons butter
4 tablespoons olive oil
1 cup sliced mushrooms
1/2 cup Marsala wine (turns out the cooking marsala tastes the best)

In a shallow dish or bowl, mix together the flour, salt, pepper and oregano. Coat chicken pieces in flour mixture.

In a large skillet, melt butter in oil over medium heat. Place chicken in the pan, and lightly brown. Turn over chicken pieces, and add mushrooms. Pour in wine and sherry. Cover skillet; simmer chicken 10 minutes, turning once, until no longer pink and juices run clear.

Let me know how this turns out. This recipe has over 3,000 reviews and a rating of 4.5 stars. So its a damn good recipe and very very easy to make.

Oh crap... forgot to add to the ingredients:

1/4 cup cooking sherry.

BTW Chicken Marsala? Since no: Dear God in heaven thank you for that amazing recipe Jack...I'm thinking you haven't tried it yet. Sir...this recipe is proof that God wanted us to eat chicken. Just like Yoga pants are proof that God is a man.

All right already! I only tend to cook a couple of evening meals / week here and have been working through the freezer. I'll pick up some marsala and cooking sherry. The recipe is printed off and is with my cookbooks.

[Westo]

Thanks for this Andrew,

It's put a big smile on my face

[CaliGuy]

I have been thinking about this for some time ... and I recall J3B posting a few times on my wall and every time I was doing the Wayne's World "I'm not worthy" dance. This was over 2 years ago and I still recall some of his sage advice.

That said I had to go back and find the 4 things that stuck with me all this time, I went back to find them exactly and not paraphrase as I did not want to botch it up ... he was beyond wise and I think one could just read his posts and learn more than they would imagine.

You talked the talk.

Now it's time to walk the walk

...and stop talking.

As for your son if this goes to a divorce, and I really get the feeling that if you get a divorce its going to be because YOU ran out patience. You're going to find out that the LBS almost always has more control of the situation than anyone who first comes here realizes.

If this goes to a divorce, you aren't going to settle for just anyone in your next relationship. You might be surprised at just how well a family you can make AFTER a divorce.

Last God is a jerk. He seldom gives us what we want. But almost always what we need. : )

On the note of damage done. She'll have the applicable excuse of being bat-[censored] MLC crazy. You'll have the excuse of being logical, knowing what you were doing and malicious.

"Somethings are hard to know and some things are easy. Like I know that Mom and I will love you no matter what. What is hard to know is when the squirrels will come down and take your mother away...cause she's nuts. get it?"

[Mach1]

I happened about this, and thought it perfect for the season...

He told me once, that what you do THIS Christmas, will pay dividends next Christmas....



Twas the week afore Christmas and all through my house;
My life was topsy turvy and chaotic, thanks to my MLC spouse.
The decorations were hung and the tree looked just right,
But the spirit was missing, not really joyful this night.
The kids, were rambunctious unmindful and driving me crazy,
Still they seemed fragile, a bit lacking and lazy.
Surrounded by family, but utterly alone,
My MLC spouse had much to atone.
“Why?” I railed silently, “Why me, what have I done?”
“It’s another holiday it supposed to be happy and fun!”
And then my frantic eye settled upon the small manger,
To where a child was born to life full of danger.
God’s only son would be born, teach, suffer and die,
The real meaning of Christmas, not this marketing lie.
The real meaning, is giving, wholly without pause.
Not Rudolf or Frosty or Santa Claus.
Not receiving, not being selfish nor greedy,
To my MLC spouse, I need not to be needy.
To my children and family I give them my best,
Not this emotional wreck who needs lots of rest.
My suffering is small, my spouse might be worth it,
But this Christmas is about others, and I deserve it.
My children will be happy for I take the lead,
Not my bat-chit crazy spouse, with ambiguous need.
I will not feel sorry for myself or wallow in pity.
It’s not fair to my kids, in fact, it’s kind of chitty.


--Make the holidays good, not for you but for others. It’s not about you.

[Westo]

Awesome!

[Esame]

That's so lovely...

[25yearsmlc]

when I was going through this, my mantra was

Today is not the day that I quit

Maybe I will quit tomorrow, yet I will wait to see what tomorrow brings

Then repeat that tomorrow

Though I knew Jack in real life and learned of his passing back then, this is the first time I've read through these.

This one ^^ was a biggie for me.

But at this moment I find myself in tears for this dear man who had so many curve balls thrown at him in life.

The many lives he touched...if you can, reach out to his mom on FB.

She's hurting. I'm sure his wife/sons are too, but his mom is reaching.

Ouch...this $ucck$ a lot. There are SO MANY quotes of yours in my life!

Jeff (jack) you are missed a lot. You left a mark. I know you are flying now.

Okay I will not be sad for you now, I promise.

[roist]

I love the way this community loves it's fellow members. I am glad some of you got to meet Jack/Jeff. I only have the words he shared here with others to go by, but that is easily enough to feel saddened by his death.

I am sure his real family miss him (understatement) as do many of his virtual friends.

Jack took time to help a lot of people here in sharing his insights, opinions and 2x4's. I know there are many others too but he has a legacy that I wanted to acknowledge.

Best wishes to everyone that knew him.

[25yearsmlc]

Another Jeff/Jack3 quote to me was this:

I don't think DB is for the spouse, I think it is for us, to realize our value.
--the light at the end of the tunnel is the one we make I think.

I'd say sorry about h, but you deserve better. I AM sorry about the hardship you went through...but not you realizing that you deserve better.

[exquisitetobe]

25yrs, thank you for your presence at the moment.. i hoped you would contribute in J3B' s honour. Thank you!! And know that, to me, you were also words of wisdom.. you made a difference in my life .