I'm no expert but... This works! 4 years since BD

[SM34]

How did you find any of my threads? Just curious. It's been many years since that part of my life so I'm interested in how you found them.

[PsySara]

I went through the threads with the most replies, I paid attention to the signatures and focused on the ones who managed to save their marriage. No worries friend, I'm not truly creeping on ya, I was just pleased to see one of the success stories return.

[SM34]

lol I'm not too worried about being stalked. I just never really imagined anyone would ever stumble across my posts and take the time to read them. As I said, I'm flattered though!

You sound like I did back then. Looking to find others who succeeded and then trying to figure out what they did differently than the ones who didn't. I'm not sure it is that simple. Of course there are people who hammered the last nail in the coffin by themselves but there are also others who did a fine job but their spouse didn't come around. At least not with any time left on the clock. Sometimes the left behind spouse has already decided to move on.

I'm about to start reading your story.

[cbtdad]

Wow SM34! Welcome back. Great to hear you are doing well and that M has survived.
I remember you and I started here around the same time my first stint around.
W and I reconciled, but unfortunately we are having rough times again. Well actually things have been better between us lately, but still separate bedrooms. We shall see.
I'm just working on me. That's my focus

[SM34]

Cbtdad !!! Oh my lord! I remember you from back in the day brother. I'm sorry you are having a rough time. Stay positive, I'm a firm believer that things can be better.

I'm heading over to your threads now to get caught up

PsySara I got through your first thread. You are a very amusing and intelligent woman. . Will continue reading.

[PacLove]

SM34 - very encouraging... I haven't read your thread but sounds similar to mine and hope I have the same outcome in a few years.... done my best to keep the door open, being pleasant but it hasn't been easy.

W just now is in the process of ending things with OM and wants to slowly starting working on the R, I'm guarded but hopeful. Thanks for coming back to share!

[SM34]

PacLove that us AWESOME me news! Take it slow. Ok. I'll read your sitch soon.

[Seeker7]

SM34 It gives me hope that these things really do work. I am new to the board and have been reading through some of the people who have had success.

I am happy for you that you have started the R. Best wishes that everything works out well.

[ForGump]

I went through the threads with the most replies, I paid attention to the signatures and focused on the ones who managed to save their marriage.

Sara, that's pretty impressive that you did that. Would you mind summarizing your findings? Did you see a pattern? What did they do right?

[BillyHo]

Hey Sm34,
Thanks for posting your update. I know for me it is nice to hear from and about people who have been successful in saving their M. I have been dealing with my sitch for about 6 months now. I have a coach and have taken a "softer" stance than some would advocate on here. I am going to look back at your posts to get a feel for how things got to where they are for you.