WW Help Needed

[MoveFrwd]

Last night she sent a single text...

"Sometimes the hardest part isn't letting go but rather learning to start over"

What is she saying or meaning by sending me this?
This was after the "never contact me or text me again!" and "please block me now because I'm blocking you now!"

It doesnt mean anything. Dont even try to interpret it, its a waste of your energy and whatever you decide on will likely be wrong.

[Thornton]

That text could be interpreted a million different ways. Maybe she sent it to mess with your head.

[codeman]

Wow you guys are so right.
This is exactly what I needed to do months ago.

Ok so now she is texting me but should I answer her or ignore her? Especially after her angry "Do not ever talk to me or text me again" rant?

[codeman]

Cristy, My changes are for me and my family. It is how I should have been all along instead of the selfish and self absorbed A-hole I was. Even my son has mentioned how I am so much better to be around and not so critical of every one.

So do I respond to her when she texts or calls me?
This is my struggling point at the moment.

[Thornton]

If she is with OM, I would not reply at all.

[Tryin2figuritout]

Even my son has mentioned how I am so much better to be around and not so critical of every one.

When the kids notice, you've got it humming Codeman. My kids have tended to spend more time with me than previously and I'm enjoying it.

Keep it up.

[codeman]

Thornton, I feel the same way just need to know if that hard line is the right move at the moment.

Tryin2, I was really shocked when my son said that. This is a life style change for me and is a permanent one. I wont describe how horrible I was to everyone around me but it was bad. That's why my guilt was so painful once I realized the part I played in W leaving me and her A. I still wrestle with the guilt at times but I'm working on it.

[Thornton]

Code,

I've been here a few times and there's one thing I always see from the vets regarding cheating.

If you buddy up with your W while she is in an affair, she will lose respect for you. If she doesnt respect you, she can't love you.

You literally have to make her feel in her heart that she has lost you. Doing this takes lots of time because she knows you still want her.

If you dont have kids, I would go completely no contact until she can be transparent with you.

[Cristy]

Cristy, My changes are for me and my family. It is how I should have been all along instead of the selfish and self absorbed A-hole I was. Even my son has mentioned how I am so much better to be around and not so critical of every one.

So do I respond to her when she texts or calls me?
This is my struggling point at the moment.

Hi codeman,

I'm glad you are making these improvements/changes for yourself and your precious family.

There isn't a one size fits all answer for your question regarding to replying or not.

You are at a very fragile point in this relationship and it would be extremely helpful to know what your next move should be. Please call me to discuss our program at 303-444-7004.

Cristy

Resource Coordinator
The Divorce Busting Center
303-444-7004

[Tryin2figuritout]

Tryin2, I was really shocked when my son said that. This is a life style change for me and is a permanent one. I wont describe how horrible I was to everyone around me but it was bad. That's why my guilt was so painful once I realized the part I played in W leaving me and her A. I still wrestle with the guilt at times but I'm working on it.

My awakening wasn't my son, but my nephew 10. He asked me last summer "why are you always so sad?" out of the blue. Of course I haven't done anything about it until now and am working on my depression.

Understand the guilt thing and it's something we all struggle with. It's a step in the process to come to terms with it all and move forward. Forgiveness of self is important in this to free that guilt burden, but you can only do it when ready to make it real.