Getting ready to move forward #2

[petri]

I read the Midlife for dummies. I laughed my a$$ off. It's all there. Apparently WWs use the exact same script. There was not much that I haven't heard or seen. And the beauty of all is that it should get even worse...

[Holding]

I think there must be an app that they all download.

I say that all the time to Dusty, since he and I went through almost the exact same thing, down to the same phrases and events happening within a week or two of each other. It was surreal.

[petri]

It is a very bizarre and crazy world we live in...

[TBSakaJ9]

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2012722&page=1

there is some good discussion about this on the above thread.

[LH19]

Still after all that we are willing to stand and wait for them. Now what is greater love than that?

P,

I am gonna challenge you to dig deep on this one. IMO like Holding you’re standing out of fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear you won’t find someone else. The thing is if you and your W were truly in love this wouldn’t be happening. If you truly loved and valued yourself you wouldn’t put up with your W having a f-buddy.

Now I see youre researching MLC so you can use that as an excuse to hold on even longer.

Take the focus off your W. Start doing the work on yourself and try to get a little better every day. Sorry to be so harsh but you deserve so much better.

[petri]

If you truly loved and valued yourself you wouldn’t put up with your W having a f-buddy.

That's my point here! If this had happened say two years ago I would of kicked her out.

What comes to MLC, it's not about the wait. It's more about why. I know I should just let it go and focus on me. But that's just me. That's what I do. I work with people who have their minds twisted and totally f-ed up.

Day by day things go where they go. I move forward slow but steady.

[Holding]

I am gonna challenge you to dig deep on this one. IMO like Holding you’re standing out of fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear you won’t find someone else.

Man, now I'm getting 2x4s from LH in other people's threads.

[Btrow]

Man, now I'm getting 2x4s from LH in other people's threads.

H, you can run, but you can't hide LOL

[petri]

I really do love those 2x4s from LH.

[petri]

I went MC yesterday by myself. It good that we have free MC here. We talked about the reasons for the D, my feelings about it and of course the MR itself. The therapist wondered if W even herself knows exatly why she wants the D or what it really means to have a D. And in the end of the session the therapist said that it would be good for W to go there and talk about things when she's ready. The therapist said that it seems there are issues she needs to deal with.