Things seem back to normal between us but much better since before BD. She is talking about things. She has continued with the sexual joking even after Saturday night. We flirt, joke, have intellectual conversations, and snuggle in bed.
I know I'm supposed to be detaching but she seems to be coming toward me. I am taking all of this with a huge grain of salt. I'm still calm, cool, and attentive. I'm still not saying I love you until she does first (though I occasionally slip on that one).
I know I need to see consistent behavior overtime but could all this be for real?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Of course she was hot to trot! An A jump starts her sexual desire.
IMHO, if the W is not kissing her H, it is not a good sign that she is in to him. But she can have sex with him and fantasize about doing it with the OM.
IDK, if it's just a woman thing.........but, intimate kissing is a very good measuring unit as to how she feels about her H. When a woman really wants to make love with her H, she'll want to kiss him. There is a difference in making love and just having sex.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Wife's birthday is coming up in 10 days. The big 5-0. And she is not handling well.
Wants no party. No gifts. No acknowledgement that it is occurring. Even said she might go away for a few days to deal with it herself. I think she was feeling me out on that last one.
So any advice on how to proceed? What should I do? D is pushing for a party but I want to respect W's wishes on that. I feel like if we can get past her birthday then things will smooth out. I think a lot of her issues has been turning 50 and wanting to still be sexy, wanted, sexual, attractive, etc.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
So I've been pretty emotionally stable lately. After being with her a lot over the weekend, abd the three hour sex session Saturday night, I had a bit of separation anxiety yesterday going to work. But i didn't text her or call her.
But it ood feeling better emotionally.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
You won't score any brownie points throwing her a BD party, especially since she has said she did not want one. If she wants to mourn the fact she got to live 50......then let her, by all means.
I would talk to D14 about it, and see if she wants to take her mom out to eat. Then you could take her to one of those places where the waiters all gather around your table and sing Happy Birthday!
If there is anyone there that knows her.......I'm sure they won't look to see who has a BD.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
