RE: Returning- After some bad stuff- need advice

[mbe76]

If you are falsely accused consider legal action on it or saying you will search no win no fee legal advice to recover your legal costs. And OM is the one you will seek action against. I think you will only need to mention this casually and she will tell him.

This will scare him shitless. The jerk arsehole scumbag that he is.

I don't think this is a goer- in that the prosecution dropped the case as they said there was "no reasonable expectation of a successful prosecution" my W said to me that she said he told her to make the complaint and this was the only reason she gave a statement and the Police pressured her into in to it.

I think you are being played as WW is a SAHM and needs your fin support. It's time for hardball and to move back in to the MH. Expect drama. That's why I think you should mention quite casually that you are thinking of getting compensation for your costs against OM. You can tell her a bizarre old English woman suggested it and what does she think?

No eye contact? That's usually guilt. You are getting the shifty eye? That's manipulation. The smirk? That's duping delight.

Move back in and reclaim the MBR. She is the cheater here.

Claim your kids and stay in the home you pay for.

V

So I did this, I moved back in, but then the drama kicked in- she accused me of being controlling again and said it wouldn't matter as she was filing for a D anyway and if I moved back in she would move out and I would be making my Children homeless- she then got hysterical after I said I was not making my children homeless as this is their home- she then threatened to call the POlice and given the last time- I didn't want to get a non-mol order against me so I left.

The next day she was all fine with me and I feel like such a mug- because I then went to a friends little girl's barbecue with her- and she was all friendly with me- and then when we got home- I left after bathtime like the soppy nice guy I am- I am so angry with myself- aaarrrgghhh- I want what's best for the children but by doing this I am just being stuck in the NGS

[Vanilla]

Did you record your convo?

V

[Vanilla]

It is all manipulation, she wants it all. You threatened her having it all.

I get the non mol. I did the same and moved out. It took a long time to get back in and I owned the house from before M.

V

[ovrrnbw]

She is projecting her controlling behavior onto you. Rise above it!

She is manipulating you by saying you'll make the kids homeless. Your kids will not be homeless.

You need to record all convos. Get an app on your phone, and set it on the counter with your keys. This gives you a backup story AKA proof.

Considering you've already been to the clink once, you might want to record convos.

What does feeling "like a mug" mean? And did you go to the BBQ with your daughter or with WW?

[mbe76]

Did you record your convo?

V

After she threatened me with the police I recorded it- yes- too late I know- I am not going to engage in any more R talk until she engages.

[mbe76]

She is projecting her controlling behavior onto you. Rise above it!

She is manipulating you by saying you'll make the kids homeless. Your kids will not be homeless.

You need to record all convos. Get an app on your phone, and set it on the counter with your keys. This gives you a backup story AKA proof.

Considering you've already been to the clink once, you might want to record convos.

What does feeling "like a mug" mean? And did you go to the BBQ with your daughter or with WW?

I will start recording all convos from now on . . .

Feeling like a mug? The fact she is having her cake and eating it, she says she doesn't want a D one minute, then she does- she keeps flip-flopping and it is driving me insane. I feel like a mug because she is getting the best of all worlds right now, she is effectively living as a single mother, and I am there every night to see the children, bath them and put them to bed- time with them for me is precious.

We went together to our friends house- and they know we are separate but probably only been given her side of the whole story- but yes- we went together- me, her and the children

[LoneWlf]

mbe- be the stable reliable parent. Take this opportunity to create a greater bond with your children. It will only benefit them and you in the long run with or without W. Set some boundaries and adhere to them. Stay calm and take things as they come . Blessings on your journey!

[mbe76]

Thanks for the encouragement, it is really tough- as when we do go out as a Family- it is usually fine- and the children love it- it is just that this is feeding her cake eating ways and her myopic view of me being a bit of a doormat nice guy

[Vanilla]

Did you record your convo?

V

After she threatened me with the police I recorded it- yes- too late I know- I am not going to engage in any more R talk until she engages.

Good.


Boundary discussions only or admin.

V

[Rawpain]

BTW Mug is slang for fool in the U.K
Mugged off = treated like a fool for those who wanted to know.