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not holding my breath. lol


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I checked with the Child Support office and asked "Am i considered late, behind, in rears or in default at the current juncture in any way shape or form?"

the Office's reply - No.


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My only concern now is that I feel as though the Judge has thrown a rock into the proverbial hornets nest.

She is likely to Lawyer up now, which she hasnt done to this point.

I am MUCH more concerned about the TRO at this juncture,

and i believe the efforts to antagonize, and harass will increase in frequency and intensity.

Her arrogance becomes obvious with things like "I guess Ill have to find a new school for him"
we have 50/50 decision making, she cant just change his school because she wants to.
Same with the times she has tried to dictate the terms of our divorce to me.
Her entitlement is astounding.


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Your only responses are YES, NO, or NO RESPONSE. She can try to antagonize you but it won't work if you don't take the bait.


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M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
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Orange

I was a very slow learner

I would always take the bait

Then I finally stopped texting

So she would call

And I learned to let it go to vmail

And then she would have to talk to me live

And if she was disrespectful then I left the conversation

So she started taking to me respectfully

I tell you this because I learned the hard way

You can do this

If you remember you can only control you


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2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
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Strong like bull. I got this!


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Never replied yesterday. Waiting for her to find something else to dig at me about. As expected yesterdays communication came via text, not email as requested.

She expected to be able to steer the divorce ship where and when she wanted. Sorry to disappoint Hun, but no.,


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Happy Birthday Orange! Are you 31 now? You seem stronger than when you were 30.

Feel the power of freedom. Keep it growing man


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Yep. 31. Thanks Nef

I feel a lot....different.

I find it ironic my last low point was the eve of my birthday.
Then the court notice came in the mail.
That had a huge effect.


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Not much to report. I haven't heard from her since the comments she made about not being able to afford daycare. She had said she was going to file a new financial paperwork so I will look for that in the mail. I have a lot planned this weekend with S3. I took Friday off so he and I could go to the beach after I get my license renewed and then I think on Saturday and Saturday night we will go camping. That will give us enough time on Sunday morning to pack up camp and head home and get ready for her to come pick him up. the only thing that I'm kind of worrying about is if she attempts some form of retaliation, although I can hardly be blamed for the Court's decision. I've been thinking about the fact that she actually apologized and said she was wrong in her last message, she has literally never apologized to me about anything ever. let alone admitted fault for doing something wrong. It wasn't genuine, it was backpedaling after she reacted out of anger. I don't know if it's a placebo effect or something but hitting my birthday has certainly helped, I've felt pretty Zen these last few days


M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4
All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18
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2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD
2 Major breakups.
2 Rebounds
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