Two calls and three texts in a span of an hour and a half.
She asked me if everything was ok. I said "Yes. Busy as f**k lol". She complained about the heat. And that's about it.
And since last week, out of the 20 or 30 times she called me, I called twice. Both to ask to talk to my daughter.
She will continue to temp check you. As you GAL, detach and 180 she will feel the loss of control and not like it. At all. And will try to reestablish control. Be vary wary of anything she says, and even does.
ANother anti-divorce writer I read talked about how (I've told this hear before) the WAW will often resort to performing oral sex on the LBH in order to get him to reattach. WAWs do not like to lose their plan B, especially when plan A is precarious. So be very careful not to overreact to any positive signs she may start showing.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Two calls and three texts in a span of an hour and a half.
She asked me if everything was ok. I said "Yes. Busy as f**k lol". She complained about the heat. And that's about it.
And since last week, out of the 20 or 30 times she called me, I called twice. Both to ask to talk to my daughter.
She will continue to temp check you. As you GAL, detach and 180 she will feel the loss of control and not like it. At all. And will try to reestablish control. Be vary wary of anything she says, and even does.
ANother anti-divorce writer I read talked about how (I've told this hear before) the WAW will often resort to performing oral sex on the LBH in order to get him to reattach. WAWs do not like to lose their plan B, especially when plan A is precarious. So be very careful not to overreact to any positive signs she may start showing.
If that happens...should I accept the...job? I mean...it HAS been awhile. (Sounds funny, but there is some seriousness behind this question).
Two calls and three texts in a span of an hour and a half.
She asked me if everything was ok. I said "Yes. Busy as f**k lol". She complained about the heat. And that's about it.
And since last week, out of the 20 or 30 times she called me, I called twice. Both to ask to talk to my daughter.
She will continue to temp check you. As you GAL, detach and 180 she will feel the loss of control and not like it. At all. And will try to reestablish control. Be vary wary of anything she says, and even does.
ANother anti-divorce writer I read talked about how (I've told this hear before) the WAW will often resort to performing oral sex on the LBH in order to get him to reattach. WAWs do not like to lose their plan B, especially when plan A is precarious. So be very careful not to overreact to any positive signs she may start showing.
If that happens...should I accept the...job? I mean...it HAS been awhile. (Sounds funny, but there is some seriousness behind this question).
Standard DBing answer: yes as long as you can accept with ZERO expectations.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
A more serious question...how can I tell the difference between temp checking me and actually asking for R efforts? I know she won't come out and directly say "Let's R." There has to be a difference between a false positive and a true one. What are the signs I should look for so as to not to fool myself?
A more serious question...how can I tell the difference between temp checking me and actually asking for R efforts? I know she won't come out and directly say "Let's R." There has to be a difference between a false positive and a true one. What are the signs I should look for so as to not to fool myself?
Consistent behavior over a long period of time.
When she consistently shows that she has nothing to hide (no contact with OM), and she treats you with respeect, and no longer talks or acts like she wants out. And this is consistent over months....maybe even years, then you will know. Remember, MARATHON not a sprint.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
A more serious question...how can I tell the difference between temp checking me and actually asking for R efforts? I know she won't come out and directly say "Let's R." There has to be a difference between a false positive and a true one. What are the signs I should look for so as to not to fool myself?
Consistent behavior over a long period of time.
When she consistently shows that she has nothing to hide (no contact with OM), and she treats you with respeect, and no longer talks or acts like she wants out. And this is consistent over months....maybe even years, then you will know. Remember, MARATHON not a sprint.
I think she is possibly showing signs. Not saying it's indicative of ANYTHING since it's been only a week and change. But I'll keep an eye on it.
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