The more I have thought about this today, the more it is eating at me. Someone in my home had contact with someone shopping for gin at 10:30 yesterday morning.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
The more I have thought about this today, the more it is eating at me. Someone in my home had contact with someone shopping for gin at 10:30 yesterday morning.
I am probably the most anti-alcohol poster on this site. However, there are worse things they could have been looking for. Let it go.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I know that she didn't drive 16 miles to buy Gin. She doesn't drink Gin. It has very little to do with alcohol. Has to do with whom? You see, one more discovery and I am done. Finished.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
I know that she didn't drive 16 miles to buy Gin. She doesn't drink Gin. It has very little to do with alcohol. Has to do with whom? You see, one more discovery and I am done. Finished.
So you don't believe her? I thought you did. I am confused. Was it the D's friend or not?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Steve85, I don't know what to believe. The only thing I know is that someone in my home had contact with someone that bought Gin on Thur morning. And nobody is admitting to it.
D friend flew into town and doesn't have a car. Besides she's 19 and doesn't know anyone here besides my D.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
Well, sometimes you just don't get to know the truth.
Saturday, I guess I was wearing my feelings on my sleeve. W asked what was wrong. I told her that the whole receipt thing had been eating at me. She said I thought you believed me. I explained that at the time I did, but this is how things sometimes work when you have exhausted all logical explanations. W got defensive and I too defended my feelings. Then W just stopped and had this look of pain on her face. Neffer, I thought about what you said. The repercussions of infidelity are deep. Especially without proper R. Anyway, again I tend to believe her. W asked D19 and I even called the neighbor. You see we live in a townhouse and receive our mail through a slot in the door. Best I can figure is that the receipt belongs to a neighbor and blew near our unit. Someone may have slid it through the mail slot. This is all possible.
Anyway, I think it is important to report that even though we had an argument, me justifying my feelings and W feeling unjustly accused. BTW, I never accused her. Even with this less than happy exchange, we seemed to recover quickly. Who knows what the truth is? Either W is truly innocent or vastly improved her acting and lying skills. I have been able to move past it. I'm sure some here will say that I should have let it go in the beginning. Well, much like attraction, suspicion is an involuntary emotion. And if and when W pulls the last straw. I will be angry. If I had discovered some inappropriate liaison, it would be over. As I read stories from those that Ss have moved out and those that still cohabitate. I'm not sure being under the same roof is any better.
So back to limbo. W showing respect. I maintain a distance and focus on my missions and not the MR.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
Hi RR. I understand what you mean. Having been on the other side, let me tell you that it�s hard for everybody. Just give time the chance to erode the sharpness.
Walk safe RR
WW H(me): 53 W: 48 T: 27 M: 22 S: 18 Piecing since 03/2016 Saw the light in the storm
Interesting update. I figured based on your posts that you were going to confront in some capacity. Glad it seems to have worked out well. The reason we advise against it is it can be the catalyst to destroy everything you've been working for.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Steve85, not addressing it could have been a catalyst as well.
When you are not willing to overlook anymore infidelity EA or PA, physical evidence like this is not something I could choose to ignore. It would have leaked out somewhere.
As for the advice? Even if I don't immediately or fully apply it, I most definitely take all of it into serious consideration. At the end of the day, it still shapes my decisions.
Thank you.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
