Husband cheated, trying 180 (2)

[kech]

I told him I am not going to stand in the way of his relationship with our daughter and that I think he knows that. And he said " I absolutely dont know that. Whats the difference if you felt like you were doing it by yourself before and youre doing it by yourself now." (referencing what I said to him yesterday)

Then he said "I havent been there for anything, you can tell her that when she is older" (again, being sarcastic). I said "would you like to pick her up tomorrow or I can drop her off to you."

And he responded "F*** you"

and then said "Find yourself a better man, good luck"
"Sure he will be a better dad than me."
"Im going to get a lawyer, thats what needs to be done"

And I have not said anything back

[Ready2Change]

How is your relationship with MIL?

[kech]

relationship with MIL is great



Do i respond validating him that I understand he wants to get a lawyer and then say let me know about seeing her tomorrow.... or do I say nothing?


He just responded saying "see you then", as in when he gets a lawyer. He is avoiding seeing her tomorrow now. Do I say to him something about him seeing her tomorrow? He clearly is trying to get out of it now

[kech]

He just responded saying "see you then", as in when he gets a lawyer. He is avoiding seeing her tomorrow now. Do I say to him something about him seeing her tomorrow? He clearly is trying to get out of it now

[Ready2Change]

and then said "Find yourself a better man, good luck"
"Sure he will be a better dad than me."
"Im going to get a lawyer, thats what needs to be done"

And I have not said anything back

relationship with MIL is great

Does she know about H cheating? Would she support your marriage if you told her you want to work on it but H's being deceptive and you suspect there is OW still in picture?

[kech]

She does not know about his cheating. She wouldnt want to get involved, but she would support us in whatever we decide to do. He is her son, so she would be sure to be there for him, but she would also want to be there for me.

[kech]

I dont know what to say back to him. I dont understand why he is now ignoring seeing the baby tomorrow.

[Ready2Change]

She does not know about his cheating. She wouldnt want to get involved, but she would support us in whatever we decide to do. He is her son, so she would be sure to be there for him, but she would also want to be there for me.

I have seen others do this with good results. The key is you need to get the TRUTH to her before he spins his lies.

[kech]

Any help on how to respond to his last few texts?

[Ready2Change]

I dont know what to say back to him. I dont understand why he is now ignoring seeing the baby tomorrow.

"H, I am unclear if you would like to see D tomorrow. Let me know what time you will be picking her up. If you do not respond with the exact time, I will assume you do not want to see her tomorrow"