Okay got it. I feel like ive been doing nothing for so long, it is all out of my hands. Its like my happiness is completely in his hands right now and im just waiting for the next BD, which will be divorce papers. And if they come tonight I am not prepared for the emotions I will have.
I wont show them in front of him, but this will be so hard.
Okay got it. I feel like ive been doing nothing for so long, it is all out of my hands. Its like my happiness is completely in his hands right now and im just waiting for the next BD, which will be divorce papers. And if they come tonight I am not prepared for the emotions I will have.
I wont show them in front of him, but this will be so hard.
One of the big learnings DBing teaches is that you shouldn't rely on anyone but yourself for your happiness. Don't give anyone, even your S, that much power over your life.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
But he is now controlling divorce and custody proceedings it seems, and the baby is for sure always going to be attached to my happiness.
I wish so badly he would stick to the countless discussions we have had about this and keep his word. If I wasnt fearing divorce and custody issues I would feel really good about how things went last night.
My main concern at this point is our child. 6 months old is extremely young, and she is primarily in my care, and now I have to think about the fact that that is going to change and it is honestly enough to make me lose my mind. A lot of the time he doesnt follow through on things he says, but this time feels VERY different.
You need to get legal advise. ASAP! It will reduce your fears. Knowledge is power. Know what your state laws are.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
