truth dart: W:"You have made it perfectly clear that you want to have a relationship with other woman instead of me. I have ABSOLUTELY no intention....." (see post above...pick what works)
Typical the less words the more the impact.
You can practice this in the mirror until you are ready.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
He came to watch D last night and was very upbeat and friendly when he got here. I showered and got ready and was also nice back to him but stayed busy. I went out and had a great night out with friends and he was nice when I got home and he left right away. Which I thought was weird but probably for the best.
He texted me this morning asking how the baby was. I didn’t respond immediately and he texted again asking what I was doing with her today. I responded letting him know she just woke up from a nap. He asked if she slept through the night etc. that was really it so far today. Not sure if we will hear from him again today or not.
Feeling down, weekends are hard bc I wish we were spending time together. But it is what it is.
Yep he's already softening. This is danger time kech because you'll start feeling like stopping the DB efforts. Now is the time to double down, not stop. Stay strong.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Feeling down, weekends are hard bc I wish we were spending time together. But it is what it is. Any encouraging words today?
You had a plan last night and you followed the steps of your plan. This works, keep doing it.
Plan for the next interaction. Did you see my earlier post about getting your hair done?
Your plan should include "worse case prep". that way you can respond to almost everything.
I am sorry you feeling down. ((((HUGS)))))
Can you take the baby for a walk? Do you have a friend that can come over and "enjoy" baby time with you? Have any good music you can dance and sing to?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Thanks so much. I am definitely going to try to push forward, stick to this, and do my best. I am of course very curious of what he is doing today, working, not working, etc. but trying to push those thoughts out of my head. He mentioned to me twice last night where he would be sleeping, his friends house. But the way he kept saying it makes me feel like he was lying.
But I never asked, and I know not to. I just thought it was weird he offered up the information. It was like he was reassuring me but I wasn’t asking to be reassured. And I always think he’s lying so it’s unimportant anyways I suppose.
I am going to do a little shopping with the baby, get out of the house for a bit. Really struggling today. He could be anywhere. I hope time with all this space and freedom brings him back somehow. I hope in time he misses me.
That’s really all I want. For him to miss me, stop any divorce proceedings, and say he wants to work at this. Wishful thinking I know. He knows how hard I’ve tried, he said he knows I was trying and fighting for us. I can’t believe we’re here.
Thinking of buying DR. I still need to finish DB. Maybe tonight would be a good night for that once I get the baby to sleep. If I don’t hear from him tonight that’s ok. Preparing myself for that. If I do and he asks to come see the baby how should I handle it? Any thoughts/suggestions?
Sitting in my car in the grocery store parking lot crying. Better then in front of him during next interaction I guess! But man I can’t wait for this to not be so hard.
