Ya again, a small step forward w a half step back. She is def making effort, more with her actions than words. Dont know what will happen, but i know I would be in a lot worse shape if not for the advice here
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
I am wearing my wedding ring. that doesn't signify I made a final determination about what to do, but we are still married and it's the right thing to do. plus I don't want you to think I'm trying to pick up dudes with my ringless finger.
What's the reply???
Why reply? Look Terapin, you've got to quit putting up with all her wishy washy BS behavior. Like Vapo said, YOU ARE THE ROCK. When she throws this crap at you about not being sure what she wants then don't reply. I mean the NERVE of her telling you "I put my ring on but don't get your hopes up, it doesn't mean anything." I would either have not replied or said "do what you want, but until it actually means something to you I don't give a flying crap whether you wear it or not." Be alpha. Quit caring about all these little crumbs she's throwing your way. Detach, GAL, let HER pursue YOU.
See, this is why you guys are the best. My first thought when I read it was 'wtf?' Then I felt good about her taking a 'step' forward. Now I'm back to being 'wtf?'
All I wrote back to her was 'ok. I won't be trying to pick up dudes either'.
Like I said, I don't know why, out of all the things that have happened, but not wearing her wedding ring bothers me so much.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
W's sister is having a legitimate serious mental breakdown. Her and her family live 3 hours away, and her H and my W and brother in law are planning to have her 302'd. It's a really sad sitch. So on top of our M issues, W also is dealing with that. As terrible as this is to say, W and I have been discussing (and I think) bonding over it for the last 3 days.
Again, this goes against detaching, but I'm really trying to do my best to support her and her family during this.
Why I shared this here, I have no idea. lol
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
I am wearing my wedding ring. that doesn't signify I made a final determination about what to do, but we are still married and it's the right thing to do. plus I don't want you to think I'm trying to pick up dudes with my ringless finger.
What's the reply???
The right reply was NO reply. Though your short reply wasn't terrible. Remember, DO NOT RESPOND UNLESS ASKED A DIRECT QUESTION.
As far as her wearing the ring, or at least saying she is: believe nothing she says and only half of what she does. Lots of reasons why she is pulling this potentially, just do not read anything into especially positive.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
