Thanks for the reminder, actions speak louder than words. So I will tell him yes and just not be around while he is here, or agree to him taking her somewhere for a certain amount of time and make exchange very short.
I don’t know how cordial I could be to him right now. I’m so hurt and I’m also SO sick of his text bait. His continuous texts proclaiming things like “oh this is how it’s going to be” when I don’t respond. I just want some time. I wish he could see that. I wish he understood I’m HURT that he’s seeing someone!! Texting me about football?! Where is your head?! That’s pointless and stupid. Our marriage is ending and you’re texting me not to watch a football game with our D. Blows my mind.
I am not recommending to answer these. But if you do want responses....
W:"We both know the REAL reason you are acting like a d*ck"
I prob should have responded that way, but instead I said nothing. He’s basically calling himself a d*ck because I certainly didn’t say it. “My mind is not on football” is what I said. If that makes you feel like a d*ck then maybe that’s your answer. .
And I was really hoping his team would lose tonight, but I see that just took the lead. Ugh. I’m sure he is happy as a clam now. Him and OW can celebrate.
I’m glad I can say petty things like that on here so I never say them to him. I wonder how long he will deny their relationship to me. I don’t really understand how I STILL want him back after all this, yet I do. Not sure what that says about me.
Any suggestions on how to respond when he undoubtedly texts tomorrow asking to see her? I’m fine with him seeing her, I just don’t want to see him at all. I wish he would just leave me be for a few days.
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W"H, To help reduce confusion, I am proposing these exchange times this week."
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Please let me know your thoughts. W
Fill in the times that work for you. (Give him LOTS OF TIME so it does not look like you are keep him from seeing her) I Still think best to fill his Friday evening/ night with parenting responsibilities (As well as Saturday night)
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Is there an arrangement that you would feel comfortable with that is different than what you have now? I agree it is difficult with such a young child, but where there is a will, there is a way.
Do you have family you can depend on?
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Looks like R2C and I are going in the same page with suggesting a schedule.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
H: I’ve already missed out on firsts with her bc of you
W"No, You missed out on her first because you CHEATED ON YOUR WIFE."
I have to disagree with you on this. She handled it perfectly by not responding.
What is the objective in trying to make someone in a deep fog, see reality?
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Thanks guys, a schedule is a must and I’ve told him I will not stand in his way of seeing her. Sometimes I think he wants me to so he can blame it on me when he doesn’t see her.
He says he would like to see her daily, but he comes as he pleases bc his work schedule is all over the place.
I have family I can depend on yes. I actually have an amazing family that is very close, but I have tried to keep them from knowing the details of this, as I know it will upset them. They love my husband very much; but have noticed a change.
I will suggest a schedule this week, again. Hopefully he is more receptive. I have suggested it twice in the last week and nailing down times just seems impossible for him to do. Maybe if he wasn’t so concerned with making it by the bar before he comes here it wouldn’t be such an issue.
Question. Should I feel regretful for bringing up that I found out he is seeing someone? He really was making a large effort to be here the last 3 days, and this totally threw a wrench in what was going on. But I honestly don’t think I could have pretended not to know once I found out. I deserve more than this and he can’t keep pulling the wool over my eyes. Even though I feel like I was getting somewhere with him, I don’t regret telling him I know and that our only communication from here on out will be about our daughter.
