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Originally Posted by kech
Thanks Steve, I literally thought of you as I was responding and AS SOON as I said "is there a reason youre being this way towards me" I knew it was a mistake. So then I immediately went to short answers "ok", ignoring his general statements, even "ok" to his dissolution comment frown ugh.

Such nerve he has telling me how to dress when hes off with some other woman. Amazes me. And him saying the whole thing about not needing another reminder..I dont really know what he meant by that. maybe reminding him ive made all types of changes now that hes out the door or something..? Im not sure, but i didnt ask.

I see that he's reeling. But I hope he doesnt really just go through with a divorce in his angry state like this. I guess we will be crossing that discussion next week.


One of the things I've noticed with most of the sitches here. The WASs that threaten D most are the ones least likely to follow through. Most of the ones that do file don't say anything, they just go file.


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I really hope you are right, id like to avoid D as long as possible in order for us to continue living separate and see how we feel. Weve lived apart for 2 weeks today and he seems all over the place, in my opinion. But I am going to try not to focus on that until we discuss it next week.

He definitely wanted a reaction out of me when he brought it up today, and when I didnt give him one he continued with his rude texts

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yeah he was definitely needling you. You did very well other than the initial question.


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Thanks Steve. My validating of his feelings at the end put an end to the convo. Which I am fine with. I am sure things will be awkward when he comes tonight, which I really hate, but I am just going to leave and head to the gym.

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Originally Posted by Steve85
Oh, and next time you see him have your sexiest shorts possible on.
I respectfully disagree. Be impeccable with your word.



I highly suggest wearing your sexiest, shortest miniskirt. wink


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Originally Posted by Ready2Change
Originally Posted by Steve85
Oh, and next time you see him have your sexiest shorts possible on.
I respectfully disagree. Be impeccable with your word.



I highly suggest wearing your sexiest, shortest miniskirt. wink


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Kech,

will you be affected by hurricane?


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Seriously though. I don't think going back on your no short promise is worse than sleeping with someone else. So wear shorts.


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Originally Posted by kech
H: Like you said, we dont need to communicate for anything besides her
W: Agreed. Just hope we can be nice to one another while communicating about her.
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This is perfect response.


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H: Keep your new shorts style to yourself please, that sh*t erks my nerves.
H: Just a reminder I dont f*cking need
H: At least until I dont have to be at your house when im seeing the baby
H: Do whatever you want out with your friends just not in front of me
H:8 years you never tried to look sexy for me, now???? It isnt for me, someones gotta be telling you too..F*CK THAT
H: Yea, like I said, 8 years and I never gave you confidence. Makes a man feel more insufficient.
You still have him on the hook. What you are doing is working.

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H: Im not seeing anybody, and you obviously are too

Am I reading this right...he put the word "too" at the end....As if you both are seeing people. NEVER POINT THIS OUT TO HIM. Just more confirmation. Not that it matters.


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Originally Posted by Ready2Change
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H: Im not seeing anybody, and you obviously are too

Am I reading this right...he put the word "too" at the end....As if you both are seeing people. NEVER POINT THIS OUT TO HIM. Just more confirmation. Not that it matters.

I read the same thing, R2C. Kech....use this as motivation to keep kicking DB a$$.

FWIW, I suggest you wear your sexiest pair of skorts. Just to mix it up.


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