Well everybody this is probably my last post as a married person. Heading into final divorce hearing tomorrow. ex-wife submitted a new financial affidavit the other day, It doesn't even really make sense. The numbers don't match up at all according to her financial affidavit she has about $1,200 more in expenses each month then she has income. also apparently she maxed out an Old Navy credit card for $6,000 between last year and now. anxiety has definitely been on the build-up. feeling an awful lot of mixed emotions today. Probably doesn't help that I had to see her yesterday at pick up for S3. she looks good for usual but I'm constantly reminding myself that she's a rotten apple and the inside is not Delicious Fruit but poison surrounded by a ripe and inviting shell. just feel like I'm wearing a 50lb weighted vest today. Any advice about tomorrow?
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
You will be nervous and that's ok, keep your conversation strictly business, don't let her suck you into anything else. You will feel a sense of relief but also sadness as well, morning what was or what could have been. Take a day or two for yourself but then get back on that horse and ride!
When my XW showed up for court she had no make up on and looked tired. I could tell she was sad as well, I tried to hold it together but started tearing up when she was reading from her script. She looked over at me and then her voice started to crack as well. In that moment I knew she wasn't the ice princess and at least felt something.
Just know you that you will be ok....take your lessons learned and move forward.
currently sitting in Courthouse parking lot. Final hearing starts in one hour. Things moved forward very much with the woman I have been seeing last night. I don't think that much is going to get changed about the actual divorce decree today but we shall see. I will post an update when I'm done
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
Good luck Orange! For most of us D was just a formality, most report feeling more a sense of relief afterwards than any grief or pain. Hopefully it's the same for you.
Things moved forward very much with the woman I have been seeing last night.
Huh? Did I miss something? What woman you've "been seeing" since last night? Even that sentence makes no sense... How can you have been "seeing someone" only 12 hours ago. Do you mean the woman you hooked up with last night? Either way, the day before a D hearing has to be by definition the worst time to start seeing someone. Hopefully it's not like it seems. Focus on you and the D and don't bring an unsuspecting 3rd party into this - not now. Now is the time to heal and get ready for the future. Hopefully your hearing goes as well as it possibly can. This just sux no matter how you slice it. Hang in there - it will get better.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
Hang in there OK...you will be just fine. It's ok if you feel some emotion, I tried to hold it back but couldn't. Maybe I was weak but I am glad my XW saw it, I am glad she knew that I cared and would have done anything to keep our family together.
Anyone else concerned about OK's silence? I would have expected an update by now. I sure hope that incident last week when he walked his S out for the pickup from W, and she texted something about him not staying 300 feet away didn't become an issue.
OK, I will continue to pray for you and your sitch.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Things moved forward very much with the woman I have been seeing last night.
Huh? Did I miss something? What woman you've "been seeing" since last night? Even that sentence makes no sense... How can you have been "seeing someone" only 12 hours ago. Do you mean the woman you hooked up with last night? Either way, the day before a D hearing has to be by definition the worst time to start seeing someone. Hopefully it's not like it seems. Focus on you and the D and don't bring an unsuspecting 3rd party into this - not now. Now is the time to heal and get ready for the future. Hopefully your hearing goes as well as it possibly can. This just sux no matter how you slice it. Hang in there - it will get better.
we've been dating for 3 weeks. Went on 3 dates. No I have not hooked up with her as you say. Not going at that pace. when I said things moved forward it was just because we had a really good in-depth conversation about where we are emotionally and what we are both looking for in a relationship
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
