Anger and hate are closer to gentleness and love than is uninterested and apathy. Lots of things I've read suggest that if the obstinate spouse is angry and bitter it is a better sign than not caring at all.
So hang your hat on that. The fact that he is angry means that he still cares.
Last edited by Steve85; 09/14/1812:32 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Thanks Steve, I hope you are right. Havent heard from him since he left here last night without so much as a word. But trying really hard to not to expect to hear from him. Its really hard, bc I normally hear from him every day, and now that hes all angry and seems to hate me, its like he wont reach out. And when he does, it is negative, like you said. Which makes my stomach turn when I see his name.
But im still in a place where id rather hear from him even if its mean than not at all. Hoping to get through this day a little less miserable than yesterday. Thanks everyone
But im still in a place where id rather hear from him even if its mean than not at all. Hoping to get through this day a little less miserable than yesterday. Thanks everyone
As I alluded to yesterday, you really need to flip the script on that. Otherwise you will just sit and stew in your own juices. Not a fun way to go through a day.
So dive into activities and busy-ness. That is the key!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Ya I will be busy working all day, but still find it hard not to "stew". Was up until Midnight reading DR. Just really trying to make short term goals and find ways to achieve them.
I just received a text from him saying "How'd she sleep"
I will answer saying "Up once but good"
is this a good way to respond? I know its not a yes or no question, but it is a question
Yep, that is fine. But hold off. Give it a 1/2 hour. No need to make him think you are hanging on waiting for him to text (even though you have been! LOL)
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
H: how’d she sleep W:up once but good H: K H: I’ll mow the rest of the yard tomorrow and weed whack W: ok thanks, appreciate it
I was under the impression he had to work tomorrow, but I will be at a bridal shower with the baby. Not sure what time he plans on doing it and I’m not going to ask. He can figure it out. Not sure if he’s plans to come tonight, but not going to worry about that today. If he doesn’t then I will cuddle my baby and enjoy a Friday night in with her.
Going to really work on my patience with this process and try to stop thinking about the lurking Divorce discussion next week that’s providing me anxiety. Thinking I should pick up yoga! I need to relax, embrace the D like you’ve said said. Any thoughts on our text exchange? I said thanks and appreciate it bc I really do. Our back yard is massive and the grass is so long and wet from the rain it would be a really hard task for me to do at home with the baby.
Thanks for all your help! Anyone else’s input, criticism welcome
He just texted me that theres a sexual predator alert in the neighborhood....not sure how he even knows how to get those alerts, probably something he learned from OW.
Does he not even think before he texts me? Weve been together 9 years, and all of a sudden youre telling me about a sexual predator alert? BYE
He just texted me that theres a sexual predator alert in the neighborhood....not sure how he even knows how to get those alerts, probably something he learned from OW.
Does he not even think before he texts me? Weve been together 9 years, and all of a sudden youre telling me about a sexual predator alert? BYE
