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lost8 #2813054 09/18/18 12:55 PM
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She´s falling and you are not her parachute. She must face reality. Get out of her way.


WW H(me): 53
W: 48
T: 27 M: 22
S: 18
Piecing since 03/2016
Saw the light in the storm
neffer #2813056 09/18/18 12:59 PM
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do i even respond? How do I validate this?


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T-19
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S23, S14
BD - 5/9/2018
OM discovered 5/10/2018

In house sep - 8/18/2018
Rope drop 2/15/2019
R'ing since 3/15/2019
lost8 #2813062 09/18/18 01:28 PM
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You can´t follow her there lost. You need to stand for yourself, she must be responsible for her own actions. Avoid confronting her but you can´t validate that imho. Set some boundaries to protect yourself.


WW H(me): 53
W: 48
T: 27 M: 22
S: 18
Piecing since 03/2016
Saw the light in the storm
neffer #2813066 09/18/18 01:43 PM
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Got it, have not responded


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OM discovered 5/10/2018

In house sep - 8/18/2018
Rope drop 2/15/2019
R'ing since 3/15/2019
lost8 #2813069 09/18/18 01:55 PM
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Now the anger is coming....."you left me snowballing and didn't give a f***, I depise you, f*** you, you knew I was hurting and did nothing"

Sounds like a test to bait me back in....not biting.


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S23, S14
BD - 5/9/2018
OM discovered 5/10/2018

In house sep - 8/18/2018
Rope drop 2/15/2019
R'ing since 3/15/2019
lost8 #2813070 09/18/18 01:55 PM
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Typical behavior after the weekend getaway to justify her guilt for being with OM?


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BD - 5/9/2018
OM discovered 5/10/2018

In house sep - 8/18/2018
Rope drop 2/15/2019
R'ing since 3/15/2019
lost8 #2813074 09/18/18 02:07 PM
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Let her return all the stuff shes buying.


Together:20 years
M:3 years
Me:40
WW:40
S15
A suspected:5/17
AC:5/18
BD:8/18
WW in full blown R w/ OM
Still under same roof
lost8 #2813075 09/18/18 02:09 PM
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She left you right? How is it your fault? Don't be mean or overly wordy in your response, but she can deal with her own actions and consequences.

A simple "that stinks" would be address her concerns. You aren't there to bail her out anymore.

Lost, can you put your sitch in your sign too, like mine?


H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
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test signature


Last edited by lost8; 09/18/18 03:00 PM.

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BD - 5/9/2018
OM discovered 5/10/2018

In house sep - 8/18/2018
Rope drop 2/15/2019
R'ing since 3/15/2019
lost8 #2813101 09/18/18 03:02 PM
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WAS/WS manufactured anger. Got to love it. Kind of like when you snoop, confront them with evidence, and they get angry that you snooped. ROFL Like snooping is worse than cheating.

lost8, good move on just letting this go. It is exactly what neffer said it was: HER OWN GUILT


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M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018
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