You are talking too much to her. Don't tell her why or why you aren't going somewhere. Cut the small chat.
Meetup has lots of groups, you should be going for fun not to be thinking about your sitch all the time.
Understood.
The more you interact as normal and tell her everything you're doing and why, the more she knows you're still there for her and the less reason she has to change the situation. It [censored], because you want to have your old W back. But she is gone.
I do this too, just last night laying next to my W. I wanted to reach out and hold her. But I'm still thinking about the sweet girl I married, not the unrepentant, depressed liar and cheater. So I level out and say "Hello?" to myself before doing that crap. Both our W's have a long ways to go, if they ever do go.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
I hear you. That being said, as AS has mentioned, W knows I’m hoping/longing for her. I see a different, more confident W. That’s who I have always wanted. W also knows I cannot and will not wait in limbo. I cannot keep couch surfing. I cannot keep an irregular schedule. And I cannot wait for my second chance. She knows all of that.
I would do a lot for some tangible progress. And I’m doing a lot already.
In addition, I’m not the same person as before either. I’m becoming stronger, happier, more adventurous, and more self-confident. W’s H is not the same man anymore.
I read your story and its very similar to mine. I rooting for you. You are where I think I will be soon. I'm going on the rollercoaster of emotion by the hour. From strong and confident to lonely. I know the struggle and hate it. Keep your head up. I'm going to start following you and hope it helps me.
Me 45 W 40 Step Son16 D 3 1/2 M 7 yrs Sept 1st yrs together 10 Living together 06/18/18 ILYBNILWY 8/21/18 W looking for housing.
The more I have thought about it, the more I realize that the S may have saved my life. I did not realize how toxic and unhealthy we both became to outselves over the last few years. We're becoming better individuals.
It started to turn around when I started to focus more on what I can control: Myself.
That meant getting back to my roots. The man W fell in love with. Will it work a second time? I hope so. That being said, I am loving the stronger, more confident me more and more daily. So if W decides that it's too late, I'm going to make W2 a very happy and very lucky woman.
I am starting to feel that things are getting better for me. My sitch with W is still a question mark, but two months in (day 54/135) I'm seeing noticable changes in the way we interact with each other. We barely talk or text. But it feels like when we do talk or text, it's more the quality of it.
You have control overself, Stryk. Your W has her own journey to go through.
One more thing, I was very skeptical when others told me that the gap between pain gets larger as time goes by.
My skepticism has been put to pasture. I'm starting to have better days than not. And my anxiety has gone down as well. It flares up every now and then, but it's MUCH better than it was two weeks ago.
Work on yourself. Work on yourself. Work on yourself. This is key.
In addition, I’m not the same person as before either. I’m becoming stronger, happier, more adventurous, and more self-confident. W’s H is not the same man anymore.
He’s being reborn.
Keep it up pain, just dropping a few lines to see how you doing and showing some love. Keep your head up. I'm rooting for you. Peace!
In addition, I’m not the same person as before either. I’m becoming stronger, happier, more adventurous, and more self-confident. W’s H is not the same man anymore.
He’s being reborn.
Keep it up pain, just dropping a few lines to see how you doing and showing some love. Keep your head up. I'm rooting for you. Peace!
Appreciate the love, brother. I’m gaining speed towards something really special.
