Last night W started trying to stir up trouble with my friends. I sent her a message and asked her to stop trying to start trouble. She said "not my intention". I said "that's bs" and then tried to let it go. A little later she sent a heart emoji. I sent a ?. She sent thumbs up, then sent a funny but dirty meme. I didn't respond to it.
She knows she messed up, she knows she's out of time. And it's like she's trying to get her way one way or the other (in fact, on the phone she said "I will get my baby back, one way or another". I asked her to elaborate...she didn't.
I'm not afraid of her anymore. She knows that I'm standing my ground and almost completely ignoring her. She knows that Wednesday everything changes and it's not how she thought it would be.
She's literally thrown everything at me this weekend...veiled threats, reminding me of sex with her, telling me things about OM like "I admired him as a father to his son", insulting me, apologizing, begging, shouting into the phone at me, saying private things that only she and I know in front of people, trying to make me laugh, trying to say things to make me cry...and I've just put up a wall to it. And she doesn't know how to react. So she's reacting with everything.
This is so, so weird.
Last edited by blakmac; 09/23/1811:39 PM. Reason: forgot some stuff.
But your messages are all focused on her. What are you up to? How is your GAL doing?
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
GAL isn't going too bad. Had a friend come into town for the weekend, so that was good. I don't usually have a lot of money to go out and do things, but I do stay pretty busy even if I'm at home. I'm doing pretty well considering.
Do your best to keep ignoring her. Shes in desperation mode. Stay strong and keep on the right path! My W has been trying to bait me and antagonize me, she really wants me to make a mistake to use against me. So i know its tough, but stay focused and stay on the right path.
Together:20 years M:3 years Me:40 WW:40 S15 A suspected:5/17 AC:5/18 BD:8/18 WW in full blown R w/ OM Still under same roof
Dang that was a long phone call. If you cut that short next time, your W will be as effected by that as she was by you not taking the bait all weekend.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
W was supposed to pick S up from daycare. I got a call...they were closed and nobody came. I went and picked up S, then went to W's place. She was there. She got off early and fell asleep, but didn't set alarms.
She's still pushing to try to get me to agree to 50/50 custody and using the offer of MC as leverage to talk me into it. It almost feels insulting.
What can you do to GAL tonight? You need to get out of your head. Get out of the house, talk to a friend, go to the gym.
Do something!
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
W called to check if I was okay. I was. So she decided to blame me for things, insult my friends, and generally be nasty. I saw some of her friends laughing at her statements about me, then of course they blocked me. Which is fine.
I'm just tired. It's like she's just going to keep blaming me for things that 1) I couldn't control medically, 2) were said by old friends BEFORE we were dating, and 3) being upset about the things she's done AFTER she left.
It's all about what she wants to be angry about. It's not at all about the relationship.
I don't get this, and I don't want to do this anymore.
