He was only coming yesterday to edge the lawn, and it was him volunteering to do it. And he also was going to pick up a blanket he wanted. But he never showed, and I still haven’t heard back from him from text about tonight’s times. It’s only 7:30am but he is a very early riser so it’s strange I haven’t heard back from him. But I guess he has his own life now to do as he pleases
I sent H a text around 9pm asking about tomorrow’s time if he could make the earlier time work. Haven’t heard back which is strange. Hoping he gets back to me at some point tomorrow so I don’t have to reach out again.
Ugh. Wondering where he is and what he’s doing. But my night has been okay so that’s what matters!
My guess is that he doesn't want to be there at 5:30pm. Maybe due to time with OW? Anyway, he doesn't want to tell you the bad news. I would make other arrangements in the meantime.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Feeling like I might backslide today. Really feeling like I want to ask him why he is doing this to us and if he is happy like this. Just feeling like we’re getting further away from end goal in marriage.
I dont know what he would say honestly. We havent had a discussion about R in a long time. I just want to say SOMETHING to him. My stomach is in knots.
Like maybe just ask him if hes doing ok? I dont know. I just feel like we havent talked in so long about anything important. It feels like ive lost him
Last edited by Cadet; 09/28/1807:28 PM. Reason: combine posts
In my experience any convo about R is only turned on us so I said why initiate at all and when WW wants to start ranting about how bad the last 17 years were I walk away or just don't read the messages.
I would expect any response will only hurt more than no communication.
Again I wish we could all meet for coffee when we are feeling this way to just have our own long peer counseling sessions.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
When in doubt, do nothing. I would not contact him. Give him the space and time he craves. By reaching out to him, he sees it as pursuing him one way or another. Just leave the man be. If he wants to contact you, he will. I know you are having some moments of wanting to say something...but don't. Allow him to come to you when he's ready. Keep the focus on YOU!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I think it just really hurts my feelings he never responded to my text about times for tonight. I called him this morning to make sure the time worked and he said that it worked fine and he would probably be here even earlier than I needed him. And I was like "ok I just didnt hear back from you".
Its like he is treating me just he would anyone else on the street. Hes known for not responding to texts or calls, but never for me. This is absolutely a first that he didnt say anything back to me last night. It doesnt make any sense, especially when I was only texting about childcare. So it makes me just want to reach out right now and ask him if he is doing okay or just anything. I want that connection I guess. And its killing me. I truly feel like he has begun to forget about me completely besides being the mother of his child.
