MLC or WAW?

[SteveLW]

I don’t know if this will cause a reaction from W....I don’t really care.

Just ready for this chapter to close officially.

Then you are 100% doing the right thing! Keep us updated.

[EZdozit]

I sure hope so Steve. I've seen you comment in some other threads that divorce doesn't have to be the ultimate end of a relationship as opportunities may present themselves in the future.

Just knowing that now I'm truly giving it to god brings a bit of peace to it all.

[EZdozit]

So W is holding up D process until the sale of our house is complete. We are under agreement over all major issues including parenting time, custody, etc.

We each plan to keep our own retirement accounts separated and agree to split proceeds of the house 50/50. Household items will be split equally as well.

I don’t understand why she wants to live in this continued limbo.

Was my 180 to request finalizing D a reason for this?

I’m at somewhat of a loss trying to figure waw out..

[Twofeet]

So W is holding up D process until the sale of our house is complete. We are under agreement over all major issues including parenting time, custody, etc.

We each plan to keep our own retirement accounts separated and agree to split proceeds of the house 50/50. Household items will be split equally as well.

I don’t understand why she wants to live in this continued limbo.

Was my 180 to request finalizing D a reason for this?

I’m at somewhat of a loss trying to figure waw out..

I wish the WAS thread was still active, or there were more active WAS in these forums. I would love to hear more insight into the enigma of the WAW/WW.

[EZdozit]

W has been withholding S6 scheduling of activities. Today she texts this a.m. he has therapy appointment today. Today is my day with S...it’s been discussed in the past that she is not to schedule activities for him on my days w/o any prior notice.

She pulled him out of school....which he’s currently struggling mightily. Took him to this therapist (that I fired months ago). And then WAW brings him to after school care.

I view this as cake eating....she’s making exceptions to our terms to see S on my time.

Anyone else have suggestions? I’ve informed A....but she is defiant.

[EZdozit]

Journaling

Had to meet up with WAW yesterday for S parent/teacher conference. W was already in teacher room by the time I arrived and didn’t acknowledge me whatsoever. During session we had minimal interaction and only said like 3 things to each other regarding logistics of S.

We have gotten to a point where co-parenting has become a huge challenge, with are only communication being either email or text, Lawyers have really put a hard wedge between us. WAW’s threatened to get a mediator involved to act as a go between our communications after I called her out on the stunts W had been pulling and she had no excuse for.

I later texted her about S appearing to be coming down with a cold and suggested she give him a breathing treatment that helps ease congestion. W replied promptly with some back and forth texting. Ended saying thanks. My IC has suggested that one of us will have to humble ourself in order for us to communicate and not impact our S the it has.

So I decided to try to ease up our walls later in the evening and extended an invitation for W to join S and I for Halloween as it will be my night with him. I know this can be construed as pursuit, but what I’ve been doing has only caused us to have more tension and coldness. W replied with “thank you. I will give that some thought. I appreciate the offer”

I guess this could be an “as if” situation. Come if you want.....we’ll have our fun with or without you.

I have no expectations....but know I have to be the bigger person to ensure S isn’t further damaged by having parents that can’t communicate.

[neffer]

That’s the key EZ, have no expectations. Focus on S6. Doing what you consider the best for him.

[EZdozit]

My only concern is if we do engage in any activities as a unit, it might cause S to have false hope.

Anyone at a similar stage still engage in family activities with kids? Has it caused any problems?

[EZdozit]

Have had more FTF interactions with WAW in the last week than in the last 6 months with parent teacher conferences, a meet up to hand off S, and now meeting up this upcoming Monday to discuss/hash out concerns on co parenting.

W pulled stunts 3 times this week where she made last minute changes to S schedule during my time without giving me any notice until last minute. Yesterday was bad when she used S as a pawn over phone and made me appear like I was the bad guy when I didn’t cater to her demands....so she puts S on phone and he starts crying.

I can’t explain why WAW is doing this other than trying to measure these stunts as some type of control or it’s straight head games. Either way, I told her this garbage needs to stop as it has a huge impact on S emotional state.

I want to engage WAW from a calm and positive demeanor, but her utter lack of respect she continues to show me leads me to believe it won’t be impactful and she will continue to avoid having any culpability for her behavior. MLC/WAW bull$it...

Any suggestions in how I best handle conversation?

[neffer]

Cool, calm and collected. And having in mind that you are standing there to decide what’s best for your S. Is there anything more important than that?