H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
...It's about attraction, respect, leadership, confidence, self-respect, boundaries, protecting your wife & family, being decisive, strength, honor, values, and doing the right thing.....
A strong, confident man doesn't reward his wife who is behaving badly. Love has many different sides. A woman is attracted to a man who can make hard, cold decisions if needed because that is not her strength. Leadership is attractive.....
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
That's a great post from Coach. I also like this part:
Originally Posted by Coach
Boundaries make people feel safe. A plan followed up with action make people have confidence. Standing by doing nothing except waiting for someone else to make a decision causes unrest and fear. Lead.
H: 35 W: 33 M: 11 T: 13
4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1") 6/23/18: I moved out 8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")
Women who are in love don't share themselves with other men. Women leave their fathers and brothers for men who make them feel alive and excited. How do you change how she feels about you?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
...only answer y/n questions, informative texts dont need responses. Only discuss daughter....He is doing wrong, I have every right to set boundaries, and if he has a problem with my boundaries then he can do what he needs to do..... it isnt my job to clean up his messes.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
I came home when I saw my H taking care of himself for his own sake. I saw him changing his communication style, to include listening, considering my perspectives, partnering with me on ideas, really SEEING me...now THAT'S attractive. And it doesn't hurt anyone. And it doesn't fertilize doubt. It's positive, lasting and HONORABLE.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
In the annals of human endeavor, there are only two creatures lower than the one that would mess with another man's wife: 1) The one that currently also has a W of his own and 2) The one who is friends with the other man whose wife he is messing with.
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H: 35 W: 33 M: 11 T: 13
4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1") 6/23/18: I moved out 8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")
My ex got the same. Enough money to be able to live on her own. Whatever stuff she wanted out the house. The childcare arrangement she proposed etc.
But she missed out on AMOAFWL2.0. And that guy is pretty awesome. So she can enjoy her house on the foundation of sand. Maybe it's great....maybe it isnt....doesnt really matter any more.
YOU are the catch. YOU are the prize.
Shes losing out on that. No matter how much money she gets or whatever, she is missing out on a great guy and trading him in for someone that is willing to cheat on his wife with someone else's wife.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Hope vs no hope has been a consistent theme on this board. The bottom line is if that when you have no hope you will file for D. While you have a shred of hope you will continue to DB. If you don't want to file for D then you have to have at least a modicum of hope.
NO HOPE = Giving up and filing Very little hope = DBing for yourself Too much hope = DBing for the wrong reasons
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H: 35 W: 33 M: 11 T: 13
4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1") 6/23/18: I moved out 8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")
