Gaining speed (pain18 DB story, Part V)

[Phoenix9]

What should I do? D is a viable option now. I said it out of emotion last night but as of right now, it’s still there. She is awful for putting me through this.

I really can’t think straight now.

[Ready2Change]

What should I do? D is a viable option now. I said it out of emotion last night but as of right now, it’s still there. She is awful for putting me through this.

I really can’t think straight now.

DO not do make any decisions when you are not thinking straight.

[Ready2Change]

And I’m going to talk about separating finances, phone plans, and possibly have her move out. She wants the WW lifestyle, she can finance it herself.

Good boundaries. Don't talk about. Just do it.

[Phoenix9]

R2C,

Is this where true detachment begins? Should I consult a lawyer about who stays and who goes and how it will affect D?

WW wants to pour out her emotions to me. I told her I will listen. I’m consciously preparing on validation and trying really hard not to bring up the sexy emails to OM I found last night. Don’t bring them up at all? Even if I’m hurting so much?

[equalzr]

Take a day or two to clear your head. Dont make an emotional decision you may regret. After you have truly cleared your head, weigh out what you really want. You can only control yourself, but that doesnt mean that you dont have choices to dictate your own future. I wouldnt throw the D word around unless your fine with actually going that route.

[equalzr]

R2C,

Is this where true detachment begins? Should I consult a lawyer about who stays and who goes and how it will affect D?

WW wants to pour out her emotions to me. I told her I will listen. I’m consciously preparing on validation and trying really hard not to bring up the sexy emails to OM I found last night. Don’t bring them up at all? Even if I’m hurting so much?

Let her vent, validate, and i wouldnt bring up what you found.

[Phoenix9]

I know I don’t want to live like this for much longer.

[Ready2Change]

I know I don’t want to live like this for much longer.

These words are confusing for me. What specifically? What can you do to change this?

[Phoenix9]

I don’t want to live in limbo wondering if W is showing signs of R or not. I don’t want to have to hear D4 tell me how great OM is. I don’t want to provide cake eating for a cheating W.

And this is something I have repeated constantly before:

I don’t want to feel this pain anymore. No amount of meds can fix this hurt. I just want this horrible chapter in my life to close.

[equalzr]

I don’t want to live in limbo wondering if W is showing signs of R or not. I don’t want to have to hear D4 tell me how great OM is. I don’t want to provide cake eating for a cheating W.

And this is something I have repeated constantly before:

I don’t want to feel this pain anymore. No amount of meds can fix this hurt. I just want this horrible chapter in my life to close.

Sounds like you have been leaning towards D for a while?

In my sitch, i decided i wasnt going to "share" my WW any longer. I let her know that, and she filed for D soon after because her cake eating was over.