Daughter. Well things are better, she is trying harder to be less disrespectful. Started mostly with me, but eventually she was even doing it to my W. We started to be very stringent on punishment, especially taking her phone away. So she has been behaving better. One thing that is bugging me, when she wants something she gets much more sweet and we see flashes of her pre-teen behavior. But then after she gets what she wants she goes back to surly teenager. That manipulation is concerning to me, though it isn't abnormal.
I have changed many words. I now use discipline rather than punishment.
I have stepD15, D15, S18, S19. sD15 with us full time, D15,S18 every other week, and S19 is at university.
Anyway, I feel your frustration and concerns. I always wish they would help for the sake of helping. Not when they want or need something. Setting and enforcing boundaries is our job. Testing them is their job. As long as you and W are on the same page, that helps alot.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Please start a new thread and link your two threads together. Many thanks!
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