BD almost 3 months ago. W had EA with derelict for a few weeks D seemed imminent Last 4-6 weeks much improved. Had 3 MC sessions and we seem to be putting effort into saving MR.
Steve, thanks. Yeah, I'll probably have to talk about that resentment. It may not come up today, but if it does it'll be difficult.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
4th MC session complete. Not much to report actually.
Went in thinking we'd be discussing 'resentments', but the discussion veered towards parenting instead. Equally important, but talked a lot about our childhoods, how we see our 'roles' as mother and father, and how it relates to our son. Good session I guess, but not what I was expecting.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
Went to a wedding with W last night. We literally knew nobody there except she knew the bride. After the wedding we went to see a movie.
W has still made absolutely no attempt at initiating even a hint of physical contact. I made light touches throughout the evening. She didn't pull away, but didn't reciprocate whatsoever.
This is starting to really frustrate me. I don't expect sex, but apparently even touching me is 'too much' for her.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
I suppose you guys are right. It's still frustrating.
W and son left for a while yesterday, and W walked over before they left, actually hugged me, then said 'thanks for the date night last night. I had fun. I know it's hard to be patient with stuff, but I enjoyed the night'. I thought that was nice, and made me feel better about things.
Ovr, I do remind myself of that whenever I have negative thoughts. Hell, 3 months ago I was at the courthouse getting D papers.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
I suppose you guys are right. It's still frustrating.
W and son left for a while yesterday, and W walked over before they left, actually hugged me, then said 'thanks for the date night last night. I had fun. I know it's hard to be patient with stuff, but I enjoyed the night'. I thought that was nice, and made me feel better about things.
Ovr, I do remind myself of that whenever I have negative thoughts. Hell, 3 months ago I was at the courthouse getting D papers.
Yes, this is good perspective. I know when I start feeling anxious about things, I remember a year ago where we were. When she never initiated any affection, didn't say ILY, made it well known that she was interested in sex, and made it even more well known if I pressured her into it.
To today. Yeah I got turned down on Saturday morning, first time in a long time. But it was very well done (she didn't feel good all weekend) and the dynamic around it was so much better than a year ago would have been.
Baby steps. This is what you are after. There are no great leaps forward, just baby steps.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I suppose you guys are right. It's still frustrating.
W and son left for a while yesterday, and W walked over before they left, actually hugged me, then said 'thanks for the date night last night. I had fun. I know it's hard to be patient with stuff, but I enjoyed the night'. I thought that was nice, and made me feel better about things.
Ovr, I do remind myself of that whenever I have negative thoughts. Hell, 3 months ago I was at the courthouse getting D papers.
T- I hate to be the wet blanket but she has crammed you firmly into the friendzone and I'm concerned that you may never get out. I think at some point she needs to be read the riot act- that you have no interest in a sexless, loveless marriage of convenience and that something needs to change ASAP or YOU are done. Do you have individual sessions with the MC? If so then you might want to bring this up and get some input.
