Well The fact that you are asking means that there are strings attached.
Certainly condolences are the right thing to do if there are no expectations. Just don't respond to anything that doesn't revolve around the bird. If she asks how you're doing just say "great! Sorry I gotta run".
I wouldn't send it. It isn't her parent or sibling. It was a bird. Yes we get attached to pets, but I guarantee they aren't going to hold a funeral and pay thousands of dollars to "say goodbye" the way you would with a person.
I vote to not reach out unless she does.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Yeah I've slept on it and decided to do nothing. It's not like she even left a message...it was really just a missed call. What made it a bit hard yesterday was that I do see her Mom every couple weeks to help her with her computer. I think that was part of my dilemma yesterday but I still think doing nothing is best. If she contacts me I'll simply answer with sending my condolences and end the convo. I really have nothing to say to her anyway that hasn't been said already in recent months.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Hi Blu, things are going well. Enjoying my new wheels immensely. Also been working a lot. I'm not a huge fan of the holiday season (bah humbug LOL) so I'm looking forward to December 26 LOL! But things are going well thank you!
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Hi Blu, things are going well. Enjoying my new wheels immensely. Also been working a lot. I'm not a huge fan of the holiday season (bah humbug LOL) so I'm looking forward to December 26 LOL! But things are going well thank you!
Looking forward to Dec. 26th? You must be Canadian!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
That was going to be my vote as well. It would be different if she left you a message or sent you a text saying the bird had died, if that was the case I would have suggested a brief response back with condolences. But since she didn't then I would not say anything. Why? Because if you do, then she's going to wonder how you knew and may suspect that you are snooping on her.
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It's not like she even left a message...it was really just a missed call.
