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Re: Movin on #2 petri #2827675 12/14/18 04:13 PM
Joined: Dec 2017 Posts: 613 Finland P petri OP Member
OP petri Member P Joined: Dec 2017 Posts: 613 Finland	Hi all! I've been away for a while. Just trying to get my head straight. I decided to go back to IC. I'm so totally stuck in this sitch. I really need help to move on. I've been GALing and actually been on casual dates. All that has been refreshing. The problem is that as soon as the OP asks about my sitch and I tell our living arrangements the game stops there. Even I wouldn't come in the middle of all this.... Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018 The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.

Re: Movin on #2 petri #2827685 12/14/18 04:30 PM
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LH19 Member L Joined: Feb 2017 Posts: 9,227 Likes: 309	What are the living arrangements that are a show stopper?

Re: Movin on #2 petri #2827689 12/14/18 04:35 PM
Joined: Dec 2017 Posts: 613 Finland P petri OP Member
OP petri Member P Joined: Dec 2017 Posts: 613 Finland	The ones we've had. Adults swapping places week/week...one week I'm living in our house and other week in her studio apartment... Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018 The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.

Re: Movin on #2 petri #2827691 12/14/18 04:38 PM
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LH19 Member L Joined: Feb 2017 Posts: 9,227 Likes: 309	AAAAAAAAAAAhhhhh. How's the sale of the house coming?

Re: Movin on #2 petri #2827696 12/14/18 04:42 PM
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OP petri Member P Joined: Dec 2017 Posts: 613 Finland	It's not going. XW refused to make a new contract with our real estate agent. The house is off market. I'm pushing for the sell to start again in January. I've narrowed it down to three choices for her: 1. We put the house for sale 2. I stop paying for the mortgage and the bank sells the house 3. We go to court and get a decision to sell the house. This can't go on like this. Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018 The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.

Re: Movin on #2 petri #2827925 12/16/18 01:18 PM
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OP petri Member P Joined: Dec 2017 Posts: 613 Finland	I just heard from D8 that XW has brought OM to our house. I'm so f-ing furious right now. I asked XW about it and told her that it's offending. Naturally she didn't see anything wrong about it... Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018 The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.

Re: Movin on #2 petri #2827934 12/16/18 04:26 PM
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LH19 Member L Joined: Feb 2017 Posts: 9,227 Likes: 309	You guys are divorced and she owns half off the house. Why can't she bring him there? You're still attached. You need to work on full detachment. Now she knows you're still detached. That resets the clock.

Re: Movin on #2 petri #2827945 12/16/18 05:16 PM
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OP petri Member P Joined: Dec 2017 Posts: 613 Finland	I guess for me the reason is that we agreed on not bringing OP to our house. And it was XW who wanted it that way. Last edited by petri; 12/16/18 05:17 PM. Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018 The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.

Re: Movin on #2 petri #2827950 12/16/18 05:40 PM
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LH19 Member L Joined: Feb 2017 Posts: 9,227 Likes: 309	That's because she doesn't respect you P. Go with option 2 and move forward.

Re: Movin on #2 petri #2827954 12/16/18 05:51 PM
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Btrow Member B Joined: Mar 2017 Posts: 285 Somewhere in Europe	Originally Posted by petri I guess for me the reason is that we agreed on not bringing OP to our house. And it was XW who wanted it that way. Obviously she changed her mind on that subject. Not for you to discuss with her. Not really co-parenting related. Stop discussing non child related subjects. Now move forward. I vote for option 3 though ;-) Last edited by Btrow; 12/16/18 05:59 PM. M:46 WXW:40 T:20 M:13 D3,D8,D10 BD:11/12/16 D:12/14/16 OM confirmed 01/20/17

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