Did, please read AS's response carefully.....and pay close attention. There is one thing that your post screams: control.
After all of this time I find it strange that you still think you can control her. And you accuse her of manipulation yet your post about how you'd like to proceed is full of control and manipulation.
I used to think that your voluntary support was due to NGS. Now I am thinking it is more a way to continue to try to exert control.
You have to let go. And come to terms with the fact that you can control only one person in this life: yourself.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Yea that list was terrible. I knew it as soon as I took a minute to think. What is Retrouvaille? Thanks for the 2x4... I'll burn it.
I will let go. I will be thoughtful and more positive in our conversation today. Wish me luck.
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
don't worry about making mistakes. You coach sports and played sports. Mistakes are how we learn. The fact that you are trying and you care means that you have the ability. Your heart is in the right place, but it's never easy to figure out what to do in these situations where our emotions are all over the place. BTW, I'm in suburban STL I meant to tell you that earlier. I've been out to the East Coast a few times to DC and once to Maryland. I didn't think I had an accent until I went to DC.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
The key though is that YOU DO learn from your mistakes. Did, the problem I see is that you haven't learned from your mistakes, and continue to make the same ones over and over again. This is an opportunity for self-reflection and awareness. Why haven't you learn from your previous missteps, and how can you fix it so you do from this point forward?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Looks like divorce. She said she can’t try feels crazy. Wants to but can’t loves me wishes it was different. But has wall up and switch flipped again similar to when she left the first time
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
