Had a great IC appt. Told me to think of W as my drug of choice and avoid it like I would heroine or alcohol if I was a recovering alcoholic. Unless she chooses to be consistent and not be selfish. Think of pros and cons and what I’m getting out of it.
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
Had a great IC appt. Told me to think of W as my drug of choice and avoid it like I would heroine or alcohol if I was a recovering alcoholic. Unless she chooses to be consistent and not be selfish. Think of pros and cons and what I’m getting out of it.
"Unless she chooses to be consistent and not be selfish."
How would you even know this. I so wish your quote went like this:
Originally Posted by Did
Had a great IC appt. Told me to think of W as my drug of choice and avoid it like I would heroine or alcohol if I was a recovering alcoholic. Think of pros and cons and what I’m getting out of it.
That line I took out IS your ultimate problem. You keep looking over your shoulder at her going "has she changed the way I want her too?" Until you stop caring about that you won't move forward.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
Dropped D4 at school today. W there working out same as me. Tried to look at her in those damn yoga pants as little as possible but she was def looking at me hard.
At gym she approached me saying she hopes to be a completely different person after the test. And the weight / guilt of not working is off her shoulders.
She just texted me - thanked me for having D4 so much this week and said she appreciated it. She has her licensing test Thursday so hopefully she can start working. Finally. She also offered me extra jackfruit tacos as a token of her appreciation when I pick up D4. Any recommended response?
D4 is with her while I do a group speed class then I pick her back up for overnight. Many times I work just an hour or a couple hours and make good hourly money but am free the rest of the day. Babysitter for similar situation tomorrow.
I am continuing to focus on me and not reach out to her. Just trying to be respectful as my daughters mom.
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H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
Feeling like a simple thank you would be sufficient and your guys recommendation. I have a tendency to overthink
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
At gym she approached me saying she hopes to be a completely different person after the test. And the weight / guilt of not working is off her shoulders.
Interpretation- Hey Mister Plan B, here's a crumb to keep you on as Plan B loser!
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She also offered me extra jackfruit tacos as a token of her appreciation when I pick up D4. Any recommended response?
Take the tacos. Don't even thank her, just say "oh sweet, tacos! My girlfriend loves tacos!"
Great link ovr. I hadn’t seen that one yet. I read it once and will re read that every time I think she is coming back. Continue to DB and focus on me and she can prove herself with consistent actions. Words mean absolutely nothing.
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
