Whirlwind of Hurt 6

[Twofeet]

Also I guess you could say what I did was devious or manipulative towards W. My response is I don't give a sh!t. She decided to step out of the MR. So now my priorities are the kids and this is what D8 wanted for her bday. Everyone knew what was going on, even her own parents. W just needs to grow the eff up.

[Ready2Change]

You did perfect. Keep it up. Detachment is good.

[Ready2Change]

... walks off. I have to holler at her to get her to comeback and say goodbye. She says it to S3 and D5, walk off again. I have to holler at her again to get her to come back to say goodbye to D8. Mind you this whole time the kids are hollering at her to say goodbye and she is either ignoring them or lost in her own world. ....

A little controlling, but I understand why you did this.

At some point, I had to just empathize with my kids.

[Twofeet]

I guess it was a little controlling? I mean she helped buckle them in and just walked off without saying anything. The kids were yelling "mommy, mommy, huggie goodbye. Mommy come back and say goodbye." Its kind of hard to sit there and not say anything. Then D8 was yelling "mommy why didn't you say goodbye to me?" I do empathize with them, but that was kind of hard to watch.

[Ready2Change]

Reading your thread triggers my anger with my X when she was doing the same Cr4p 10 years ago. She is dragging you and your kids through the mud.


If you see it again, something like this might be needed:

H:"W, When you make other things more important than saying goodbye to our kids on their birthdays, I start questioning if you realize how much that hurts them.....If I see this again I will ...

[Twofeet]

R2C if your W was pulling the same kind of selfish behavior how did your kids R with their mom end up? Would she do this stuff only with you around or did she also do this to them on the days she had them?

[Ready2Change]

The relationship is superficial. This quote stands out from S18: "My mom doesn't know me at all"

My Lady and I do the heavy lifting as far as the emotional parenting. Our kids are doing things that we do not necessarily approve of. But they are open and honest with us (for the most part). We let them know that we do not condone some of their behavior, but appreciate that they are sharing the truth with us.

The other quote

W "The kids are fine when they are at my house".....She lives in her fantasy world.

[Twofeet]

W "The kids are fine when they are at my house".....She lives in her fantasy world.

R2C my W says the exact same thing to me when I try to discuss the problems I notice the kids have when they are at my house. Is your W coaching my wife? Just kidding.

[Ready2Change]

R2C my W says the exact same thing to me when I try to discuss the problems I notice the kids have when they are at my house. Is your W coaching my wife?

I am sure they are:

Most of the scripts and horrible behaviors are found at :

marriagebusting.com forums

[Twofeet]

Hopefully this ok to post. The gentleman basically describes the overarching general script or theme of a majority of sitch here on this board. I hear AS, LH, and others repeat his sentiment in posts. It's good info.

https://youtu.be/W7zgzuM0BCI