Everyone listen to this, this secret to a happy marriage is not finding someone that turns you on, it is finding someone that YOU TURN ON. I discarded so many girls that were just in awe of me, that had me on a pedestal.....for a gal that was like "eh, take you or leave you......what do you have to offer me?"
Originally Posted by Steve85 on Feb 14, 2018
We have been together for 21 years. Married for 19 in April. To hear her talk it has been terrible the whole time. Never mind that she pursued me hard, wanted to (and would have) got married at the 6 month dating mark, and had journals full of how much she loved me and wanted to spend the rest of her life with me.
Originally Posted by Steve85
Now I can look back with 20/20 and say, while some of those other gals weren't as sexy or pretty as my W, I think I would have been way happier with them for these last 19 1/2...forget that, last 22 years (including dating). One girl in particular I think we would have been awesome together in hindsight..
Im not here to argue with what you are feeling. Id just caution you that feelings......are feelings. Just because something makes you 'feel great' doesnt make it a good choice.
Please start a new thread and link the two threads together. Thanks!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
