Did, if you have the chance to have D4 for New Year’s Eve, then have her. We all know you love D4 and W, that’s why your DBing. Remember that when NGS tempts you. You are doing well, stand in there in the darked dim.
Merry Christmas Did.
(((Hugs)))
WW H(me): 53 W: 48 T: 27 M: 22 S: 18 Piecing since 03/2016 Saw the light in the storm
When w sends pic of D4 alnowledge it. Cute? Thanks? Or just no response. I haven’t been responding and she stops texting. FaceTime D4 they called this morning w is always there just to the side helping D4 communicate. W said we can FaceTime later if you want. I didn’t say I want or respond much at all to her.
Merry christmas all. I got a santa mask and am delivering some sweet lacrosse sticks to some of my players I’m naming captains tomorrow. Got dinner with an ex gf who’s married from HS great to hear her perspective of a happy dedicated woman. Your w should fight for you and do anything to be with you if not you don’t want that anyway. Don’t tell her your non negotiables in feb. she knows your timetable tell her you’re done.
Cheers
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
Enjoy passing out the sticks and interacting with your players. Your friend sounds like a smart woman. Don't engage with her cute texts - she's just baiting the line. You know this.
Have a wonderful holiday!
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
No response unless it's a direct question, then answer as briefly as possible.
You said you haven't been responding and that your W stops responding. Well, maybe for a while she stops but it seems like she keeps contacting you, almost daily.
Delivering the sticks sounds like a good time. Enjoy dinner with this ex, but keep boundaries and don't do anything dumb!!
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
The schedule of which parent has D4 on upcoming holidays/events should be made out in advance. The immediate goal is to cut out so much contact with your W.
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I don’t have plans for New Years maybe I’ll see if I can make any or just have D4 and enjoy the time with her.
If there was a shared calendar with the prearranged schedule, it would take a lot of guess work out of the picture.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
W dropped off D4 didn’t come in. She looked gorgeous. Gotta accept its over and move on. Going to try NC more. Feeling pretty low
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
May say something at some point about not wanting to see her or talk to her. Or I guess just ignore her. Seeing her hurts that’s for sure. Definitely not detached. More love and attracted.
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
What exactly is causing more love and more attraction? She has carried herself as an incredibly unattractive woman. Physical attraction only goes so far.
Maybe it’s wanting what I can’t have or desire to fix. I won’t say anything she sent me pics of D4 all day then when it comes to be time to actually speak or spend time she couldn’t wait to get out of here. I deserve much better. Just gotta continue to work on detaching NC and redifining my family and future.
H: 33 W:32 M: 5 T: 8 D: 4 BD: 6/2017 MO: 6/2017 House sold: 6/28/18 W wants to build friendship / relationship- 9/18 Paying $ support since 7/18. Physical Reconnect- 10/18 W Starts- IC / MC - 10/18
Did I know it's hard man, it is. And it just [censored].
But I think you are still hoping that she is going to try hard to get you back any day now. You've only been going NC for like a week. She hasn't seen any consistency yet.
Time will tell. In the meantime, I hope you truly enjoy your life. And work on yourself to become even better. Don't backslide on any of those hard earned changes. Merry Christmas man.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
