Who knows man? Maybe one day you'll find a nice gal who's into midnight boob groping.
My boob groping game shot through the roof after D, that's all I'm saying 24/7
Hahaha! At least thats encouraging.
Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
Are you planning on staying in the house? Can you refi it into your name only? If so, prepare to do that.
If not, sell it.
Not too much else to it. I'd have just continue the texting as to not see her or waste my time listening to her garbage if I was you, but how'd it go?
The more I have thought about it, I do not plan on staying in the house so we will put it up for sale. Our encounter yesterday evening did not go too well.
Conversation started out just catching up about work, family members, etc. Then she informed me that she had signed a three month lease on an apartment down the road as she could not stand staying with friends/family any longer. I told her that she was more than welcome to stay in the other side of our house and I would completely leave her alone in that other wing basically. She declined. Said she wanted to starting splitting up things, basically just told her I want our bed and my TV and sound system, not too much else that I know of right now that I am absolutely dead set on keeping.
We then started to get a little emotional and I told her that I still love her and that nothing has changed that. This was her leaving and giving up on us, as I was prepared to do whatever it took to salvage it, but that its okay if thats what she feels like she has to do. Then she blamed everything on me and said that I am the cause of this "wall" that she can't take down and that some people would call what I did sexual assault. I laughed and said no dear the only reason that there is a "wall" is because of your pride. I said that we could have used this to get the proper help and springboarded to a new place in our relationship knowing we made it through the hard times, but its okay you didnt want to do that. I told her that I cannot do this anymore, just get your things and please leave.
After I said that things sort of calmed down a bit, I looked her in the eye and said that just so she knows if/when she files that paper work there is no turning back, it will officially be the end of this marriage as I will be done with it. She immediately turned her face to the ground and never uttered any response to it. All of these statements were big for me because usually I would have been a crying mess already, but this time I was strong and stern with her.
She then informed me that she wanted to keep the dog, this made me lose it. I told her absolutely not, that this dog was a part of our family, and she is the one leaving this family and that over the last five months she never called to check on her or come into town to see her or anything. We started getting emotional, I then told her that I didnt want to talk about this now because I would end up saying something I didnt mean because of my temper, I told her lets talk about that part later.
All-in-All I guess it wasnt that terrible, but I definitely wouldnt say its a stones throw away tp reconciliation right now.
We then started to get a little emotional and I told her that I still love her and that nothing has changed that.
Bad. No ILY's. It just reminds her that she doesn't love you (at least in this moment) and further cements that thought. It solidifies you as plan B.
You were way too wordy with her IMO.
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After I said that things sort of calmed down a bit, I looked her in the eye and said that just so she knows if/when she files that paper work there is no turning back, it will officially be the end of this marriage as I will be done with it.
Better. At least you stood up for yourself a little bit.
Work on detaching so you can discuss things less emotionally. Detaching takes time and work.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
We then started to get a little emotional and I told her that I still love her and that nothing has changed that.
Bad. No ILY's. It just reminds her that she doesn't love you (at least in this moment) and further cements that thought. It solidifies you as plan B.
You were way too wordy with her IMO.
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After I said that things sort of calmed down a bit, I looked her in the eye and said that just so she knows if/when she files that paper work there is no turning back, it will officially be the end of this marriage as I will be done with it.
Better. At least you stood up for yourself a little bit.
Work on detaching so you can discuss things less emotionally. Detaching takes time and work.
Yes, I definitely made some mistakes with the conversation. Didnt stick to my DB rules well. Thanks for continuing to stay engaged with my story ovrr, I appreciate it.
Well today she apparently came back over to the house and took more stuff, she didnt take anything that I was partial to. But after a minute I noticed her rings laying on the bedroom dresser, this set me off. My thought was "she doesnt even have the decency to look me in the face and give these back to me." I also noticed that the security camera in our house was covered up as to block its view. I called her and told her to bring her key and garage door opener and drop them off in the mailbox. She got defensive and said that she hadnt gotten all of her stuff out, I said well come and get it and hung up on her. I was so upset, totally lost my cool. Im really not doing very well with this divorce busting. But I'm to the point whether I wonder if its even worth to hold onto her, her narcissism is becoming evident to me more and more.
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