Sounds like you handled the convo really well ST. I would suggest giving yourself a time out to think about it before rushing out to see a L though. Act from a position of calm and clear thought rather than as a reaction to her temper tantrum.
I was considering this all weekend. WW has always treated me like this. Always critical and mean about it. Relentlessly condescending.
I need to get out of here. She is stressing me out badly.
M:16 T:21 H(me) 38 WW: 38 S11 D16 D19 Red Flags of A: March 2018 ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018 Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018 BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018 D Filed: March 27, 2019
Going to be some major change but my mental health will be great.
M:16 T:21 H(me) 38 WW: 38 S11 D16 D19 Red Flags of A: March 2018 ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018 Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018 BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018 D Filed: March 27, 2019
After my WW ambushed me and tried to argue about pretty much everything I played games with my son for a bit. But WW stayed downstairs. I dont want to be around her at all. So I went back in the MBR and read like I usually do.
I ended up getting a call from a very nice young woman that I had met. I was chatting with her just about work and her looking for a job. I'm trying to help her get in with my employer. Very nice young woman who is 13 years younger than I am. She lives out of state, knows about my sitch etc. I'm not pursuing anything right now obviously. Shes respectful of me not wanting a relationship right now.
I dont know if WW heard me on the phone or not. I dont really care, but I get a knock on my door before WW goes to bed just so she could ask me if I was going to sleep soon.
I'm like "uh why?" She replied that she "just wanted to know." Good thing I have no desire to figure out why shes oddly asking these questions. These WW are just all over the place.
M:16 T:21 H(me) 38 WW: 38 S11 D16 D19 Red Flags of A: March 2018 ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018 Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018 BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018 D Filed: March 27, 2019
WW has always treated me like this. Always critical and mean about it. Relentlessly condescending. I need to get out of here. She is stressing me out badly.
She is testing you. Pass the test.
Understand this and change the way you respond.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
WW has always treated me like this. Always critical and mean about it. Relentlessly condescending. I need to get out of here. She is stressing me out badly.
She is testing you. Pass the test.
Understand this and change the way you respond.
Oh I did a 180. I used to get sucked right in and would yell as much as she did and scream etc. I have no desire to do that now. I don't ever want to do that again. I refuse to engage in that behavior. My WW will not stop doing that, ever. So I will remove myself from the situation so that I don't have to deal with it.
M:16 T:21 H(me) 38 WW: 38 S11 D16 D19 Red Flags of A: March 2018 ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018 Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018 BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018 D Filed: March 27, 2019
