Dealing with a WW and trying to save myself pt. 4

[SoTorn]

Hey guys. Thanks Joe. Grandma has her ups and downs. She will pass soon. It's ok, she lived a very long life and is the matriarch for 12 kids, 30+ grand kids and dozens of great grand kids.

I am traveling out of state. I feel really good lately. Ever since I dropped weight I feel like a new man. Every day that goes by I find myself asking myself "why was I settling for what WW was barely giving me?" I am so much more of a catch than I thought.

[neffer]

Good ST. That’s the attitude to keep. Go on with that.

[SoTorn]

Thanks nef. I feel so much better than I have in a very long time.

[SoTorn]

Journaling.

I'm out of town still. Took a very scenic drive in my car. Really cool. Met some people. I have been talking to everyone. Like everyone. Getting to know people, asking them what they do etc. People like talking and meeting new people. Hmmm who would have thought lol.

Anyway. Feeling great emotionally and mentally.

Kind of got bombarded with texts from WW and kids for no reason at all. I told kids I was going out of town. S11 had a bday party to go to and I set it up for d16 to drove him.

For some reason the relative having the party, even after i told the. D16 would take s11, since ww wouldn't, messaged ww asking.

So ww messaged asking if I was taking s11. I'm like for frick sake I'm trying to get away from the chit chat. I text d16 AMD ask "hey why is WW asking me if I'm taking s11, did you not tell her what we talked about?" Of course ww messages "d16s not your messenger!" So I waited a bit and responded "I set this up with d16 and s11 and relative, no reason to be contacting me!"

Then even though i told s11 and d16 where i would be in general, i got texts from them asking specifically where i was and what i was doing. Most likely ww trying to figure out where I am and who I'm with.

No I will not explain where I am at and who im with to ww. She is home with the kids so why in the world would she care?!?!

[neffer]

Insert Twilight zone music here...

You keep that GAL. You are living your life and enjoying it. You don’t need to report to no one, wtf...

[SoTorn]

Oh absolutely. Going back home today. Kind of bummed I have to leave. But I'll see my kids. That's always a plus.

[SoTorn]

Back home. Still flying high on my good weekend. Man I feel amazing. Need to keep this up.

Hi life, nice to finally meet you!!

[DejaVu6]

That’s awesome ST!!! Love the attitude!! (((ST)))

[SoTorn]

Ok. So I have managed to not physically see WW since last Thursday.

WW gets home and I'm here because I'm really tired. WW immediately in my face complaining about me. Asking what I'm spending my money on, assuming I'm doing something bad that I'm hiding from her.

I tried to get away and she wouldn't relent. I was going to leave but want to spend time with s11.

I had gone dancing a few months ago at a gay club. They have a great DJ. It's not only gay. Who cares? I'm not gay. I ran into BIL and he told her. But the thing is I told her I saw him two months ago. So she starts like smirkly giving me [censored] about it.

I just asked her to leave me alone. Again and again. Told her I will not allow her to mistreat me and will not speak with her when shes treating me like this.

So she says "oh you want me to believe you changed?"

I said "no, I dont. I dont care anymore. I'm done. Our relationship is over. I'm done" and she responds with "you care if I think you changed!".

I said "listen, I want you to listen and understand me, you cheated on me, you continue to mistreat me, we are done and therefore my business and what I do with my time is none of your business or concern, so again, leave me alone."

She responded with ya you say your done but watch tomorrow you wont be done. I have not pursued her in a very long time.

I just walked off.

That being said. I'm done. I cant do IHS anymore. I just can't. Also, I dont want WW back. I really dont. I'm done. Yes I'll always love her, but she will never change and i cant waste anymore of my precious time with this woman and in this house.

I allowed her to calm down and i told her that I will be happy to move out and give her what she wants provided we have an attorney draft up a custody agreement and she agree in that agreement to refinance the house and buy me out.

Her eyes got very red. She "almost " cried. But I just walked off as she said ok. I will see my attorney Wednesday. So I'll have him draft something.

No more of this back and forth. I need to remove myself from her physically.

[Joe2017]

Stay strong! Keep your head up! It is going to work out.